[BabyBee13]

with the BFNs/evaps that get your hopes up?..i am trying to focus on next c and what we are going to do..i want to get preseed, OPKs and instead cups..it is hard to focus on my new c though when the witch is keeping me in suspense..she really has been a jerk to a lot of us girls lately..

[Arya]

I just made a decision to relax a little bit, because I used to be obsessed with it. I take my temp every morning and that's it. I also told myself I'm not going to be testing until after 10 DPO and if I see that BFN it won't be the end of the world. Of course, we'll see how that works out when I come close to that day hehe I just want to be as relaxed and possible about it and not stress out too much, because that can't help anything. I'm still waiting for my first O, my cycles are looong

[alicenwonderland]

I find you just have to relax, and realise that sometimes it just takes a while. Its normal to take from 6 mos to a year to get pregnant. Its hard to think that when you are trying though.

[~LaurenNoel~]

I agree. I got some nasty evaps last cycle that were pretty upsetting. I know how that is.

Now I just take my temps, and we go about doing what we normally do. I prefer it this way.

[wishfulgal]

It's hard. I've had to come to terms with the fact that I'll probably never be able to pick the perfect season to have a baby or the perfect spacing between my kids. It's hard b/c I feel like other people do have that choice, and I just have to keep plugging away until it finally happens.
I'm trying to relax a bit. To realize it's not the end of the world if another month goes by and I'm still not pregnant.
Another thing...I just don't test. I don't WANT to stare at a test looking for a hint of a line. I have no desire to do that to myself. If I ever make it to 14-15 DPO without AF (I've been having an 11 day LP), then I will test.

[Spyctre]

I finally left it up to God about three years ago. I tried to do it my way, and finally adopted the "if it happens" attitude. I prayed that very night for a baby and a new house, and God gave them both to me exactly a week later.

I chart mostly to know what's going on, and I pray a lot for God to give me another child when He thinks I should have one, and to give me the strength to accept a positive or negative test either way. I found it's a lot easier if it's not in my hands. Kind of like an artist with a Muse. I gave baby making my all, but in the end, it's not up to me.