[LifesGood]

I have been told that I offended some people on our board by posting pregnancy staus info in our daily status thread.

I started doing this because people stopped using my thread to sign in because I didnt have my own stuff. In one of the threads about why there were 2 sign up threads people said they didnt use mine because the first post was blank with no updates. So on that thread I said if no one objected I would post my pregnancy progress. No one said anything about it so that is what I did.

I guess I should have started my own thread to make sure but I didnt. I am sorry that I came off as insesitive to you girls as you struggle with TTC. I dont think it is fair that you have a host they arent comfortable with, and maybe a pregnant host isnt the best thing for this group.

I am sorry I hurt people's feelings. I stepped down as a host. I wish you short TTC journeys and happy and heathy 9 months

[Coley]

What the...?

I'm so sorry you felt compelled to step down because of this...

I fully enjoyed having you as a co-host... And I hope you'll still stay around and continue to post as a member. Lots of our regulars have kids/are pregnant... so I don't think anyone feels that you shouldn't be here at all... It's not Fertility Charting for Your First, kwim?

Again, I'm sorry to hear you have stepped down.

[Mod-LilSunshine]

Sorry to hear this

[wishfulgal]

Sorry to hear this, I was not offended by that.

[Arya]

Oh, I'm so sorry about that, I really liked you as a host. I hope you can stick around

[NutMeg76]

I don't really know you too well since I am sort of 'new again'. But, it stinks thatyou are upset and that some people can be sort childish. THis board is "Fertility Charting" not just "Charting to Achieve Pregnancy". I realize that some women are having trouble getting pregnant and are using charting for this purpose, I was that woman when I was TTC my 4th, it took longer than I thought it would. Did I get upset if someone else achieved their goal before I did? No. Seriously I think we are often to sensitive in this world. So sensitive that we can't be happy when someone else is happy? That is pretty sad.

Yes, I realize I just called someone childish, but seriously that is how I feel. I know JM doesn't usually go for things like that, you know being totally honest, but I feel the need. Maybe losing my baby at 24 weeks has changed me. But how can you NOT be happy that someone is pregnant and doing well? How can you be so selfish and self pitying that you would make another woman feel bad for her good fortune? Didn't you learn in school that life isn't fair? I know I did. And then I learne dit again when it toolk us a long time to get pregnant with my daughter while others got pregnant on their first try. And then i learned it again when my son died in my uterus and I delivered my stillborn son. Life isn't fair...period. But that doesn't mean we should go around making other people feel bad about their good fortune.

I really don't see why anyone would be offended by that. I really like that you've stuck around so we can keep updated on you! You've been a great cohost and I find your posts very helpful and I hope you stick around.

[cavewoman]

I'm new here and I can't say I know exactly what you're talking about but I can't imagine that people would be "offended" by that.. jealous maybe, but offended? lol Crazy! I hope you'll stick around and best wishes with your baby on board!

[Coley]

Okay... I am going to step in now. I do not have a dog in this proverbial fight, as it were. But, as the host... I feel it's my duty to try and see things from both vantage points and speak up for those who are either unwilling or uncomfortable speaking up for themselves. Obviously this was brought up in an anonymous fashion... the parties involved apparently wish to remain as such.

Let me make myself perfectly clear... I am NOT trying to squash this thread or conversation in any way, got it? I don't have a problem with people expressing their support for Carrie, expressing their displeasure with her departure or even trying to convince her to change her mind. I think it's great that so many girls are being supportive of her.

That being said... what I DO have a problem with is other members being bashed for being honest about their feelings. If someone is uncomfortable with something, they have every right to vocalize that. Just because someone else doesn't share those feelings, does not make them any less valid.

We should keep in mind that there are girls on here, myself included, who have NEVER been able to get pregnant & don't have other children they can find joy or solace in. Some days you sit terrified that you will never become a mother.

Some of the girls have just been struggling so long to get their own BFP that being reminded every day that someone else has what they can't seem to get, can be a little much to take some days. Other girls have experienced very painful losses and do not deal as well as others. Some have a better handle on their emotions.

My utmost wish is for everyone find a way to be supportive of one another. As much as I don't want Carrie feeling unwelcome and leaving the board... I also don't want those who were bothered by this to feel like they are being dumped on for their feelings and wind up leaving the board. If we want JM to "go for" things like honesty... then that means we have to accept the honesty of others with grace, even when we disagree with it.

So, let's all just try to chill with the finger wagging, okay?

[wishfulgal]

Nikki..

[Wallflower]

Well said, Nikki. Very well said! I think you expressed that perfectly!

[OurSweetLabs]

I am so sorry to see you stepdown. You have been a great help to me in my time here.

[ashnichole2326]

So sorry you are stepping down...and also so sorry that some of you are having such a terrible time. This is really sad.

Nikki, I think you handled this dilemma very well! Good job!!

I hope we can all learn to express ourselves and to be able to handle it when others do the same.

Good luck to all TTC or TTP or preggers!!

[Coley]

Good to see you Ashley! It's been a little while...