[LifesGood]

Lets talk about how the men in our lives feel about temping and charting and stuff, if they like it or dont and if their opinions have changed what helped with that.

My DH thought reading a book on how to get pregnant was silly. (I bought Taking Charge of Your Fertility). He figured we'd have sex everyday (haha) and it would happen. But I charted and found out that my luteal phase was only 8 days and caused a chemical pregnancy the first month we were trying.

He still thinks it is silly and unnecessary but I told him that since the medical condition I have has to be in STRICT control when I am TTC and pregnant I dont want to be trying for like a year then find out we were missing my time or there was a problem.

The biggest thing that I found with my DH was try not to make it a chore. Try not to be so focused on determining when you O that you only become interested or passionate about it when you are fertile. It can make them feel used and resent the whole charting system because without it you would have a regular intamacy schedule

[rlh27]

DH loved it when we were using it to avoid. He was all for using protection just on some days rather than every time, so he was constantly checking out my chart to see if we were safe. But now that we're TTC, he's not nearly as excited about it. He thinks it takes the spontaneity out of it. I do my best so that's not the case, but he still feels "used" during my fertile time. It also drives him crazy that I obsess over every little thing on my chart during the TWW. Oh well, I'll just get my BFP soon and we won't have this problem.

[alicenwonderland]

My DH was excited when i started up again. He loves when tell him its "fertile time". (and he likes how i'm not agonizing wondering whats going on with my body)

[SammyJ]

We just started using BBT charting a couple months ago to TTA for a while until we are ready to TTC. I think my DH has actually really liked it because now that I am off the pill my drive is back wayyy up and I am a lot less crazy. As far as the charting part itself, I think it actually really interests him so he doesn't mind when I talk about the stuff I am learning. Who knows how he'll act when it comes time to TTC though.

[junie22]

I know my husband is an exception to the rule, but he loves all of it. He spent so many years not wanting to have a baby, so it's like he's trying to make up for all that time with being super-enthusiastic.

He calls or texts me every day at work to ask about my temps. He seriously wants me to SMS him pics of my +OPKs. He listens to my talk about fertile CM, though he doesn't necessarily pry for details. I just tell him it's fertile, and he's happy with that.

Yesterday, I emailed him a link to my chart that said, "Isn't my chart pretty?" He replied back, "You're the one that's pretty."

I'm 7 DPO today. At 5 DPO he started telling me I was pregnant. He did the same thing last cycle, and he was right. He did not do it the two cycles preceding that, and he was right then, too. He also had his first baby dream on 3 DPO. So he definitely has babies on his brain at all times.

When I was pregnant last cycle, he would come up to me, put his hand on my belly, and mock-cry like a baby. And, in fact, he just left a voicemail on my cell phone doing the same thing.

He is a total dork, and I'm smitten.

[Lady Valkyrie]

My DP is very supportive of it and interested in looking at the chart but I wouldn't say he goes overboard. But this is only our first month charting, don't know how he'll feel if it takes awhile and we get a few months down the road. I try not to obsess during the 2WW, this time I have next to zero chance anyway due to DP being ill when I was fertile, and I don't test until after my period is late...so there's not THAT much going on that would bring it to mind all the time and kill the mood.

[ShawnaCAN]

He's completely on board. We've learned 3 different types of charting and attended all the classes together each time. He likes that I don't have to put my health at risk with hormones and it really keeps the lines of communication open between us. He can read my chart and understands the rules for TTA.

[kristiemarie518]

Well, I'll be the odd man out here and tell you all my dh thinks I'm crazy. We're ttc.

He doesn't want to "try", he just wants it to happen. And he doesn't understand that I am not just charting to ttc, but that I'm learning so much about my body by doing it and that if we do have problems getting pg, I'll have a history to show my doctor.

He digs that I am not loading myself with hormones anymore but would prefer to just dtd at leisure and not temp or chart or think about my fertile time. He still, even though I know he knows better, thinks that we should just do it on some drunken night and it will happen. I'm like, uh, I have to be OVULATING for that....!! I know he knows we have only a few days out of the month but for some reason I don't think he gets that I o around the same time every month so having sex on cd 6 or cd 20 probably isn't going to make it happen.

It makes me kind of sad because I'm in this alone and I feel like I have to be shady with him during o so that we at least time it somewhat right.

I think that if we continue down this road and it doesn't happen, he'll eventually realize that I'm not nuts and will at least sit down with me and look at the information I've been gathering.

I know he's not trying to be a jerk and he doesn't mock me or anything but I wish he'd be more interested in what's going on inside my body when it's ME that has to go through everything and he gets to just sit back and relax. (yes, i'm a little miffed about all this. LOL)