Who was the first one to bring up TTC ?

diznynurse · #1 April 19th, 2007, 02:32 PM

You or DH?

#2 April 19th, 2007, 07:06 PM

It was me!

diznynurse · #3 April 20th, 2007, 03:43 AM

me me me!!!!!! In fact I kinda had to talk him into it cause he thinks hes too old. lol Although he always knew I wanted one more we waited 4 yrs after ds to start trying. Who'd have thought we'd still be trying a year later.

#4 April 20th, 2007, 05:43 PM

Dh actually brought it up on our wedding night, and I was sooo not ready yet. Too bad for me I got baby fever only 4 months later! *doh!* Now I'm the one who wants it, and he wants to wait a few more months. Torture, and so not fair since he wanted it before I did! Men aren't supposed to change their minds like that!

dlrich · #5 April 23rd, 2007, 11:37 PM

Well, He tries to deny it now (now that I'm saying things like "Honey, my CM is perfect and the fertility monitor is reading peak... we HAVE to BD tonight!!...romantic I know

!!), but DH brought it up first. When we married (5 yrs ago) we were both very decided that we did not want kids together (I have a 14 yr old son from a previous marriage). Well, I've gone through hormonal "baby blues" a few times, but never really considered it seriously, then my father passed away. I think his death really impacted my DH, b/c a few months after the funeral he started dropping hints such as "I'm not going to have anyone to leave anything to". It's like his desire to have his "legacy" live on finally woke up. I jumped on board at that point and since then I've been the one who's been more excited and less worried/doubtful than him. Has anyone else dealt with a DH who oscillates between wanting to conceive and then worrying and doubting about every possible thing that could go wrong???

Dlrich

ashleighgurl · #6 April 25th, 2007, 09:28 AM

DF brought it up first, but I had been thinking about it for a while and just hadn't said anything because I didn't think he would be ready and wanted to wait a little while.