Do they even have a clue???

MountainMomma · #1 August 22nd, 2007, 06:13 AM

Has anyone ever made an insensitive comment to you about ttc? Was is someone close to you or just a random person (like a cashier when you were buying 30 HPT's and 500 OPK's lol)? Tell us about the things you hear!

Proverbs31Mom · #2 August 22nd, 2007, 08:51 AM

I think I HAVE MADE an insensitive comment to this lady at work. She wasnt TTC, but after i got to know her, i felt so bad about the day she asked me how I got my two DD. I told her the truth, but later when I learnt she had a rough time conceiving, I felt bad...I felt like I shouldnt have said anything...she just looked down and was red when I told her that "I was on the pill with the first and on the patch with the second" then she asked me "and you got pg?" and I said, "Yes, can you believe them? those crappy contraceptives?" She just looked down...

One year later, she told me that she had to take some pill to ovulate, and then she conceived twins both born premie and one became an angel...I felt soooo bad and felt that I was insensitive to her.

May God forgive me.

MountainMomma · #3 August 22nd, 2007, 11:12 AM

I've had lots of comments made to me. Especially now that Matt's brother is gonna be a Dad. People ask when we are going to get started, they say things about his brother beating us. I constantly get the "Aren't you pregnant yet?" from people who know we are TTC.

#4 August 22nd, 2007, 12:11 PM

I havent really heard anything rude. I did get one lady say to me, while I was at the dollar store. I was getting OPK and HPT she said to me "you know these(pointing to the opks) are not HPT" I go um yeah I know, I have been TTC for a while I know the difference, she said oh ok wanted to be sure you knew. That was all I heard.

Proverbs31Mom · #5 August 22nd, 2007, 12:41 PM

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I've had lots of comments made to me. Especially now that Matt's brother is gonna be a Dad. People ask when we are going to get started, they say things about his brother beating us. I constantly get the "Aren't you pregnant yet?" from people who know we are TTC.[/b]

This is the very reason why I wont tell that I am TTC...dont want pple asking me..."Are you pregnant now?" all the time, or look at me with those eyes going to the belly to see if I got pregnant last week!!!

lucidity03 · #6 August 22nd, 2007, 02:25 PM

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I think I HAVE MADE an insensitive comment to this lady at work. She wasnt TTC, but after i got to know her, i felt so bad about the day she asked me how I got my two DD. I told her the truth, but later when I learnt she had a rough time conceiving, I felt bad...I felt like I shouldnt have said anything...she just looked down and was red when I told her that "I was on the pill with the first and on the patch with the second" then she asked me "and you got pg?" and I said, "Yes, can you believe them? those crappy contraceptives?" She just looked down...

One year later, she told me that she had to take some pill to ovulate, and then she conceived twins both born premie and one became an angel...I felt soooo bad and felt that I was insensitive to her.

May God forgive me.[/b]

You didn't know. It's not like you were intentionally being cruel or insensitive.

As for me... my mom and I have actually butted heads. Of course she's giving me advice and thinks I'm too young (I'm 28, by the way). Then she keeps telling me to stop worrying about it and just to see what happens. I understand what she's trying to say, but I've been ready to get pg. for a while now. I can't help but stress a little. Sometimes I just want to vent and not even get advice.

That's why I come here. I know I'm not alone. I stopped talking to everyone about TTC... even DH. I don't want to tell one more person, one more time, 'no, I'm not pg.' I never should have told people we were TTC.