Hey ladies!

I just have a quick Q. I got a +OPK CD14 and 15... today is CD16 and my temp has shot up...

I know in the next few days I'll get cross hairs. But what I want to ask is... with the temp spike today does this mean today is O day?

I'd say you are Oing sometime between last night and tonight!

So if we BD tonight... am I too late??

ETA: nevermind... DH isn't "in the mood". That's this cycle out the window.

aww Fi, I am so sorry! I hope he can get in the mood tonight or early tomorrow and BD!

[madmum_sarah]

aww sorry hes not in the mood. men just dont get the fact that sometimes we arent either but if we want a baby we both have to make sacrifices!
fingers crossed you can get a chance to bd tonight or early morning and still have a chance then!
xxx

I can guarantee we wont BD this month at all... i.e. until after the next AF. I feel like I beg him for sex every single month. *** is it that I don't turn him on anymore?? I know I'm not exactly pretty, but he married me, he had to have found me attractive at one point. So, what's changed? It's not like I've piled on weight or anything, I'm still the same as the day he met me.

I'm so sorry Fiona I've told you my thoughts on this before. This is about him, not about you. I'm just really sorry that you weren't able to BD this cycle.

On the topic of your chart, I would guess that you ovulated yesterday actually.

[Admin-pattyandthemoos]

I'm so sorry Fiona I've told you my thoughts on this before. This is about him, not about you. I'm just really sorry that you weren't able to BD this cycle.

On the topic of your chart, I would guess that you ovulated yesterday actually.[/b]

(((HUGS))) Fiona. I agree. I don't think this is about you.

thanks ladies, we've had a busy few days so I shouldnt be so hard on him, it's just very disappointing to waste a whole cycle

[sjkduke]

I know exactly how you feel. I had to practically beg DH to BD when we were TTC...it was horrible. Every month around this time, I would cry, we would argue, and it was just horrible. When I got pregnant, everything changed. We used to only BD once or twice a month, now it's like once or twice a week. I think he hated being forced into it. I'm mean though, I still agree that he didn't have a choice! LOL!

Hope you have better luck next cycle if you guys aren't able to BD this time around. to you....I so know how you feel.

[madmum_sarah]

aww im sorry you have missed this cycle.
as for the not attractive comment, dont talk like that! all women are attractive in one way or another!
ok holiday season is a hard one but i dont think you were being too hard on him but i do believe you are being too hard on yourself!
hope next cycle is a better one. keep your chin up hun
xxx

He has always said to me that we'd "go with the flow" until after New Yrs and then from Jan onwards we'd try properly. He was talking last night about us hopefully falling preggo in Jan and talking about baby names and stuff, so I'm hoping this month the O timing was just inconvenient and next month he'll be better.

Any suggestions on how to let him know when fertiel myrtle time is without putting pressure on BDing? I.e. I don't want it to be "I'm ovulating... make love to me NOW".

But I feel like he does need to know that there's only a few days per cycle that we can try to catch Egbert the Egg.... he's clueless and doesn't know about ovulating etc. I'd thought about highlighting maybe a 5 day window on our calendar, which would be around O time, and letting him take control of BDing. What do you think?

I think that might work Fi. Another thing would be to really try and explain to him more about ovulating, even getting your doc to do it if necessary. Maybe try the calendar trick for next cycle and see how that works!

i DON'T WANT HIM TO KNOW TOO MUCH. hE SUFFERS FROM ed AT TIMES SO THE LESS PRESSURE AND KNOWLEDGE THE BETTER. (oops caps lock lol)

i'm thinking i'll try the calendar thing and tell him we need to try and BD twice within the 5 days.

Sounds good! I hope he will be able to handle that Fi!