Lately a JM posted in the TTC forum about her story and ours and I thought this would be an excellent way to start my journal, so this is X posted. I'm so glad because I always wanted to start a TTC journal but couldn't think of a starting point, i.e. the reason I am nearly a year into TTC and only starting this NOW.
Thanks for reading.
Who are you? I'm Meagan (25) married to Derick (30-Wow, first time I've said that!).
What do you do? I am mostly a SAHM but a WAHM when I get sent work. I am a Medical Transcriptionist working for a firm with physician accounts throughout our area. Lately work has been slow so I am mostly just taking care of my son.
What does DH do? Derick is a pipefitter for a contractor who works in the ADM plant here. He was taking classes to become a welder as well but ADM pulled their funding from that school and they closed their doors, so no further education for DH
He is always hoping something will fall in his lap so we can get out of this smelly town and back to Alton, IL where his family lives.
Do you have any children? Gavin (DS) will be 4 in October.
What made you decide you wanted to TTC now? I have many reasons, so this will probably be the longest portion of my reply.
General Reasons I Want to TTC:
1. I just plain want to - beyond all reason.
2. I feel like the "baby" period of time was a blur with my DS and I want to experience it again, the newborn, the milestones thereafter - first smile, first laugh, cooing, lifting head up, sitting up on their own, first baby food feeding (and the messy face hehe), learning to crawl, learning to walk.
3. I would like a little girl to dress up cute. Yes, there will be some pink in order. I would also like to hand down my Barbie dolls and who knows maybe my wedding dress many years down the road.
4. I want Gavin to have a playmate and the benefits of sibling(s) that I had. Being almost 4, that gap is growing. I know they can still end up close no matter how big the gap is, but I think they will have closer interests the closer they are age-wise.
Reasons for the Timing of TTC:
We had quite a few barriers to break down before we could even consider TTC again. DS 1 was a complete oops. Well maybe not complete. But he was unplanned. We were using the PO method, being the silly young people that we were and he was conceived about six months after we were married. If I had it to do over we might be smarter and not, but not if I knew what a joy Gavin is. I wouldn't imagine my life without him, but the reason it would have been great to wait were that our living situation went like this: July 10, 2004 - Married and living with DH's parents. Early March 2005 - Got our own apartment, 1 BR, tiny. Around April 5, 2005- found out I was PG, 13 weeks (that's another story), lost temporary work assignment (working for a temp agency) and DH gets laid off. Early August 2005 - Moved back in to DH's parents' house. DH got called back to work in the middle of August, like a week after we moved there but we would have had to move in there anyway because we couldn't keep the apartment on what he made and I was NOT going back to work for at least 6 months after the baby was born. October 2005 - Gavin was born. April 2006 - Moved in with my brother and SIL - intended for only 6 months. Mid-December 2007 - Moved into our own house. ***In summary of the living situation, we have only lived a total of 25 months of our 61-month marriage in our own space. Living with my in-laws, okay, we could've had another sooner. However, we were a bit cramped and only recently have they kicked out one of my SIL's that lived there at the time we did and she had #2 shortly after I had #1 so required more space. Getting the space we needed then was going to be nigh impossible, plus with her around I was very uncomfortable and going CRAZY not wanting to live there. With my brother and SIL who live here in town we would not have another baby because it just felt like our stay was supposed to be more temporary and our welcome was worn out long before we got out. They also were wanting to have a baby and by the time we did move out they were due for #1 the March, 3 months afterward. So they needed us outta their space.
After the living situation was straightened out, at least to my satisfaction if not to DH's still (small place, 2 BR but small rooms and DH complains it is so small but we WILL make do!), we had the continuing factor of our income and ability to support another. I decided within a few months of us living with my brother and SIL that I didn't want to go back to retail (Wal-Mart previously) or food service because of the hours, time on my feet, and making peanuts for a lot of hard work. I also wanted to be able to work from home if possible because if I wasn't we were going to be back at square one, the whole reason we moved out of our apartment because I was NOT going back to work after having the baby for at least 6 months. I still feel that way. I want BFing to work out and a job that is out of the house where I would have to put a baby in daycare is just not going to happen. I also don't want to miss anything. I am selfish and I want to hog the baby and enjoy it all I can. So...in the fall (around August) of 2006 I enrolled in classes at the local community college to become a medical transcriptionist with the hope that when I finished I could get a job and work from home. It took me until the end of December 2008 to finish my associate degree, though I had my first job (and internship for the degree) by June 2008. I managed to convince DH that even if I got PG in November we wouldn't see baby until 9 months later and that I would be able to tough out morning sickness if it happened. So I quit BC in September 2008 and we tried to hold off for 2 normal cycles (that didn't happen, we waited 8 weeks though) and then we started TTC.
Sorry for the long story, if you are still reading this lol.
How long have you been TTC? We started TTC in November 2008, though until the cycle before last we were basically just BDing when the mood took me and not using protection (using TTC lube). We have been trying trying since about June 17ish but I have been obsessing for over a year anyway.
What are you doing in your quest? OPKs, watching CM, BDing every other night or at least every 2 nights, PreConceive Plus (TTC lube from Wal-Mart), prenatals, soy isoflavones as natural Clomid (this cycle for the first time, days 5-9), laying down for 15-20 minutes after DTD, obsessing, analyzing. Might start temping tomorrow. I know it is kind of late but will be helpful maybe if this isn't our cycle.
Where are you from? At heart, I am from Taylorville, IL, a city in central Illinois of about 12,000 where most of my family lives. However, since there are few jobs there and most people who live there have to commute and since gas prices are what they are, we currently live about 40 miles northeast of there in Decatur, where there are factories in abundance and my DH found work (through my uncle no less) and has been trained to be a pipefitter. I would rather be from anywhere but here but at least we have a roof over our heads, food in our mouths, and family relatively nearby.
What are your hobbies? Online gaming, Facebook, JM (of course), reading sci-fi fantasy (from my brother) and mystery (from my Mom), obsessing over TTC, obsessing over losing weight (eating better and exercising). I used to love to write fiction and poetry, write in a journal, and draw, but I have lost the time and ability to do those things with marriage and my son. I would also love to have time to take paintbrush to canvas, though I have no education in that area and might require *classes*.
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headed your way soon...and your son just looks like he needs a sibling!!!
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