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August 2nd, 2006, 12:39 PM
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Okay, i'll make this as short and detailed as i can (ha ha oxymoron?)

Last october my dad and his girlfriend got married after being together for something like 10 or 12 years (with my brother and then my gramma being sick they put it off) Now her and i have never been Mother-daughter-ish in any way. I lived with them for somewhere between 2 and 3 years before i moved out on my own.

A little background: there were 2 separate weeks in which she did not say ONE word to me. i kid you not, no exaggeration whatsoever. no hello, no goodbye, nothing. i never understood why. i don't feel i ever did anything to bring it on. i wasn't a bad kid or anything.

So they're wedding was pretty low-key. My dad and his friend are ordean ministers so his friend did the 10 min ceremony. My grampa was the best man and stepsis was the maid of honor. It was at a local park nothing fancy. i offered to take pics as their wedding gift and it was understood that this would be a learning experience for me. The whole ordering process and what not. I even went out and bought my 1st slr to do this whole thing. i got them processed and printed an extra copy for my portfolio, this was also understood before hand.

so like a week or 2 after i giver her the "proofs" she wants my negs. I was pretty confused bc how is she supposed to order them if i can't get copies since she would have the negs. She says that they're "hers" i was totally blindsided by this and she kept harassing me about it. we worked at the same place so it was pretty much non-stop. then she finally quit and hasn't spoken even ONE word to me since. not at x-mas, my nephew's b-day party...nothing. she'll sit there an have a conv w DF (he also worked with us) and still won't look at me or say anything.

so here i sit 9 mos later still with the negs and she hasn't had any reprints that i know of. my dad suggested putting them on cd but i told him that would be pointless that she can just have the negs cause i'm done with this. nothing ever came of that. i absolutely dread being around her because i just feel like i'm worthless when she can talk to DF who is right next to me! i don't get invited hardly anywhere anymore when they go on "family things" well, i never really did but anyways...do you guys think i should have given her the negs? was i wrong not to?

sorry this is so long but i'm just sick of this.
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August 2nd, 2006, 12:46 PM
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Oh boy...I wouldn't have given her the negatives. Nope.
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August 2nd, 2006, 12:59 PM
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Was she planning on ordering them herself and that's why she wanted the negs?? I am a little confused and it doesn't take much with me I am guessing if that's the case, and she was going to have to pay for the prints, she didn't trust you to not *charge* her extra for the prints. Maybe I totally misunderstood. You wouldn't give regular clients the negs, so I wouldn't have given them to her.
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August 2nd, 2006, 01:28 PM
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the only reason i ever got for her wanting the negs so bad was that "they were hers" and i used the argument that had they acctually PAID someone to do them she wouldn't have gotten them either. that was the only thing i could come up with too, is she thought i'd charge her extra for reprints. My dad was also under the understanding that it was a learning experience for me and they'd order through me. but he still wanted her to have them.

thanks ladies! sometimes i get worked up over stuff and i'm in the wrong when its over, just wanted some 2nd opinions.
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August 2nd, 2006, 01:29 PM
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Yea I would just tell your dad that you are more than willing ot make copies for her, and you will keep them on file. Besides, chances are she will take them to walmart or some cheap place to have printed, and that is YOUR work. kwim? You want to make sure they are quality, esp with it being your name invovled.
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August 2nd, 2006, 01:40 PM
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well, she can't take them to walmart bc i work there (inthe photo lab even) and they wouldn't print them w/o a release anyways. But i acctually got them printed there in the first place. i took them to a "proff" developing place and the grass looked dead, and it looked foggy. I brought them to walmart and the colors really popped out! It does depend on the equiptment they have though...there are some pretty crappy ones around.
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August 2nd, 2006, 06:15 PM
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Nope, you own your own photos. And if she wanted the negatives so badly, she should have been a little nicer about it. Hello....common courtesy.
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August 2nd, 2006, 09:37 PM
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Nope, you own your own photos. And if she wanted the negatives so badly, she should have been a little nicer about it. Hello....common courtesy. [/b]
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