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December 29th, 2006, 05:53 PM
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Hello! I know I haven't posted here in a while. I haven't really gotten to do many photo shoots lately. Wedding season will be kicking into high gear in a few months so I'll have tons of new pics to share in the spring.

Dh and I were talking last night and got into a huge argument so I thought I'd get your opinions. Dh and I have been ttc baby #4 for several months now. Dh told me last night that when I get pregnant he will have to find a replacement photographer during the last half of my pregnancy (Dh and I own a photography business together in case you were wondering). I about flipped out! He thinks it's tacky to have a pregnant photographer at a wedding. He said it will be too distracting to have me "waddling" up and down the aisles and that it will upset people at the wedding. I think he's absolutely crazy! He said after my 5th month he doesn't think I should do any weddings until after I give birth. If I get pregnant soon then that will mean I wont be able to do any of our late summer/early fall weddings. I argued with him until I was blue in the face last night but it didn't do any good. DH is super stubborn and doesn't see things from my point of view. I just can't understand how being pregnant interferes with my ability to be an awesome wedding photographer (which I believe I am...heehee). Any thoughts?
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December 29th, 2006, 07:40 PM
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What a strange argument....Im gonna have to side with you on this one. I don't see how you being pregnant would make you anymore of a distraction than normal. I mean what is upsetting about a pregnant woman? Maybe he's thinking you'd wouldn't be able to wear "professional" outfits and would stick out? I mean I dont think men in general notice pregnant women...and women only look at them to decide if they look better or worse than they did when they were pregnant. I don't think you'd hold everyone's attention for that long. Most people have decidedly short attention spans.
I know personally though, that I probably wouldn't want to do any weddings after 7mos...just because of all the standing and moving around I imagine you'd do. Then again, I've only been pregnant once, but by my third trimester, I was pretty lazy, er I mean tired.
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December 30th, 2006, 01:33 PM
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I agree that it would be difficult to do a wedding in my last trimester. We are on our feet for several hours at a time and there is lots of bending and kneeling. I guess it just irritates me that he thinks he should be the one to decide whether or not I'm able to work. We are 50/50 business partners and I guess it just hurts my feelings. I told him that, but he still stands by his belief that I should quit doing weddings when I start to really show (which doesn't take long since I've had 3 kids).
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December 30th, 2006, 05:47 PM
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I totally disagree with your dh. My best photography year was the year that I was pregnant with Gavin. I had a record number of clients for some reason, and I had lots of babies so I had to go on my knees and into all kinds of weird positions to get good shots. I did this through morning sickness AND tiredness. The thing I absolutely COULD NOT do, was the photo shoots AFTER he was born. I was so tired and out of commision trying to keep my head above water with the older two boys in school, I ended up taking a lot of time off. I was in survival mode for a long time after he was born.
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December 30th, 2006, 08:23 PM
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For some reason 7 months popped into my head too...I would think by then you'd probably be ready for a break for a few months until the baby's born...BUT I also feel this should be your decision and not dh's and definitely not for the reasons dh listed...only more for your sake.
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December 30th, 2006, 10:20 PM
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I agree with everyone!
i think 7 months sounds good, but ultimately it is your decision.
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January 1st, 2007, 06:22 PM
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I agree with the girls above.

Also, if your DH was a regular employer, he'd get in big trouble for doing that to you. I don't think anything is distracting about a pregnant woman. Heck I was 27 weeks pregnant when I was a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding.
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