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May 5th, 2008, 08:34 AM
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What have you learned/taken away from your experience with recurrent loss?
What would you like to share with ladies newly experiencing recurrent loss?
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May 5th, 2008, 08:43 PM
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What have you learned/taken away from your experience with recurrent loss?

So much it is hard to list. I have learned that compassion for others is terribly important PARTICULARLY when they are dealing with something I have never dealt with. I no longer see any issue as anything someone needs to "get over" but rather how I might be able to help them cope in the meantime or if there is anything I can do to make their lives a bit easier or let them know that I care that they are struggling even if I cannot relate. It has also taught me that things we take for granted are terribly precious & that I need to appreciate EVERYTHING. I even appreciate the time I did get with my babies even if it was way too short & even if loosing them was painful - having them with me was bliss.


What would you like to share with ladies newly experiencing recurrent loss?

It DOES get easier. You WILL heal if you keep putting one foot in front of the other. You won't be th e same as you were before & that is okay. You are strong enough to make it through this (with some good support, patience & sisterhood). You should keep trying if your heart still desires to feel that baby kick. Just when you think you are out of the game might be when your miracle arrives (as it has time & again through women here). You don't deserve this, no one does & you did NOTHING that made you end up here. This isn't fair. People who don't want babies get pg & have babies all the time & no amount of why me changes that. But it is STILL normal to ask "why me".

The only other thing I will say to new ladies is write...write, write, write. The only way to bond with others going through this is to share in each other's experiences. If you don't feel bonded & connected to us yet - it is only because you haven't jumped in & gotten to know us & given us a chance to know you. The ladies here have saved me so much - I cannot even say & it is only through sharing our experiences with each other that we each felt less alone, less isolated & began to feel more hope...more whole again. I invite anyone that feels alone to reach out - we really are here for you!

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May 8th, 2008, 12:25 AM
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What have you learned/taken away from your experience with recurrent loss?
I hate to say it, but one of the things I've learned is that bad things do happen to good people I've also become a lot more compassionate & empathetic - and I have learnt that listening is a really really important thing to do in ANY situation where someone is upset, uncomfortable or something not-so-great is happening. I think I also appreciate more about my life now...

What would you like to share with ladies newly experiencing recurrent loss?
It DOES get better, the pain does get duller... You need to allow yourself to feel whatever you're feeling - and bottling it up doesn't do any good, I think it makes things worse.... I also think that letting it all out - whether it's talking, writing etc, is a really good thing to do - and can be quite therapeutic.
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