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October 13th, 2008, 11:38 AM
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Im browsing facebook only to find yet ANOTHER friend of mine is expecting. This makes six I've come across this week. This doesn't count the five who've had babies in July, Aug, or Sept, or those that are TTC or have older kids.

The most recent one hit me hard, very hard. She and I met at work in 2003. We were both cashiers and we bonded quickly. She found out she was pregnant, her boyfriend started hitting her around, and she had an abortion. I didn't necessarily agree with it, but I stood by her and supported her. A few months later I found out that the guy I had a crush on at work had a crush on her, and wanted my help getting her attention, so I helped him, while she helped me get his attention. He and I dated, and broke up a year later when I got pregnant with the twins and he couldn't take it. Now I find out she's pregnant again, by the same guy no less.. but at least is keeping this baby.. but only cause she found out too late to have an abortion in NS. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH HH!

How do you ladies do it? How do you stay sane? I'm ready to disown half my friends! Most of them didn't/don't want the babies they're carrying.. and I'd give my left arm for one!

Sorry to dump on you all.. I just feel like I'm going crazy here, and you guys are really the only ones to understand!
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October 14th, 2008, 12:37 PM
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Yeah I don't know ... I couldn't be friends with someone who did that.
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October 14th, 2008, 01:02 PM
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I have lots of friends who have had abortions... for many reasons. I'm prochoice myself, I won't have one, but I can't stop them from having them. It just bugs me to see her facebook say "I'd have had another abortion, but I was on depo and didn't find out until I was 14 weeks"... I swear I'd have smacked her if she was close enough.

I've got so many friends having miscarriages too... just baffles me how those of us who want nothing more than a family and a baby, keep losing them, and everyone else is preventing or doesn't want one and ends up with them. Just seems kinda unfair.

So many people try for so long, and come up empty handed. But then there are those who get their miracle. I just got the sweetest phone call from a little girl, who's parents were told they'd never have a child. After 10 years, all the tests and on average five miscarriages a year, doctors told them that my aunt's uterus was a hostile environment and she'd never have any children, and her little girl will be five in a week! (we're 20 years and 7 days apart)... made my day just a little bit better.

Still tired of ppl having babies around me tho!
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October 14th, 2008, 01:57 PM
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I'm sorry sweety. IT"S hard when you would do anything to have a child and people could care less and when they get pregnant they hate that child.

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October 14th, 2008, 06:30 PM
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I'm sorry sweety. IT"S hard when you would do anything to have a child and people could care less and when they get pregnant they hate that child.[/b]
Thanks hun... I'm feeling a bit better about it today... still irked in general at it. I start BC for the first time since my m/c in april in Nov... which makes me super nervous. Sure, I'm not having sex....but it means that there wont' be any babies for me for a while
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Matthew&Mark 08/24/2005 9w1d, Mattie Anne 04/07/2008 8w Mel|&Dee 01/19/2010 (8 weeks) and 5 chemical pregnancies
Hope 07/22/2012@4w1d, Konnor 11/24/2012@3w6d,"Emmy"1/15/2013@ 3w6d, Ronen 02/10/2013@3w5d, Joy 07/19/2013@3w6d, "Pea" 09/06/2013@ 3w3d

Me: Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, PCOS, Insulin resistant
175mcg Synthyroid, 1500mg Metformin
Him: MFI low count, low morphology, low motillity
Seeing MFI specialist/RE in 2015
Attempting vitamins for remainder of 2014
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