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October 27th, 2008, 03:48 PM
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Mattie's EDD is coming up. I've been dreading it.

But I was writing dates on my calender the other day, and when I went to write her EDD, I paused. "November 17th? Why am I.. oh my god, matt."

I've had 3 ex's named Matt. One is the father of my twins, another is the father of Mattie. This Matt and I managed to have birth control work in our favor and had no oopsies. Our Anniversary... November 17th.

We've recently been talking, I've even seen him a few times this year.. and for some reason what would have been our anniversary being Mattie's edd brings me comfort. I was able to associate a sad event with one that I see as a good event.


Its nice to feel better. I've been stressing and worrying about it for weeks.. and now I feel so much better! I'm still sad that she's gone, but I'm happy that I can find some joy in her special day.
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October 28th, 2008, 11:34 AM
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I can relate!!!!
I have a dear friend that I met Thanksgiving after Avery was born...they have the same b-day!
Now, on Sept. 5, he and I go to dinner to celebrate both of them!!!

Keep looking for those silver linings!!!!
Hugs from Houston!
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October 28th, 2008, 12:41 PM
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Thanks Dawna!

I don't know anyone who has the same birthdays as my angels. I do know that my twins were due 5 days after my brother's 13th birthday, and he was quite excited about becoming an uncle. Now he wants me to wait until he can drive, so he can take the baby for drives (ya.. like that'd happen lol)
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October 28th, 2008, 01:15 PM
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At least he's being positive!!!!
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October 28th, 2008, 01:32 PM
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He's a cute kid, and will definitely be the brother I call on when I need a nap! My brothers are 15 and 17 right now, so they're pretty mature... the eldest I'd trust with my newborn in a flash! And that's saying something because I don't trust people with their own newborns.
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October 30th, 2008, 05:21 AM
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Ashley - I am glad you found something that brings you comfort. I think that is very important. Event hough we hurt for our angels & miss them, we also need to find things that keep us positive & hopeful as well.

Much love to you girl!
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November 1st, 2008, 10:02 AM
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thanks Beckie.

Today is Nov 1st... I'm here in my apartment alone (minus the farm we have here of course cats and rabbits)... I'm feeling shaky. I'm almost afraid to go outside and walk.. I feel like I could have a break down. I do this with the boys too, August is heck for me...

sigh.. where the heck are my friends when I need them? LOl
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Hope 07/22/2012@4w1d, Konnor 11/24/2012@3w6d,"Emmy"1/15/2013@ 3w6d, Ronen 02/10/2013@3w5d, Joy 07/19/2013@3w6d, "Pea" 09/06/2013@ 3w3d

Me: Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, PCOS, Insulin resistant
175mcg Synthyroid, 1500mg Metformin
Him: MFI low count, low morphology, low motillity
Seeing MFI specialist/RE in 2015
Attempting vitamins for remainder of 2014
Weight loss goal #1 - 10% body weight 23.4lbs - accomplished July 13 2014
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November 9th, 2008, 03:32 PM
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((Hugs)) I often find that the weirdest things bring me comfort...
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November 9th, 2008, 05:26 PM
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Quote:
thanks Beckie.

Today is Nov 1st... I'm here in my apartment alone (minus the farm we have here of course cats and rabbits)... I'm feeling shaky. I'm almost afraid to go outside and walk.. I feel like I could have a break down. I do this with the boys too, August is heck for me...

sigh.. where the heck are my friends when I need them? LOl[/b]
I know exactly what you mean. I'm sorry you had a rough day. Feel free to PM me whenever you need.
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November 9th, 2008, 06:49 PM
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I seem to be holding my own. I have Mattie's EDD off, which is nice. I didn't even have to schedule it off! So I'm going to light a candle for a bit, and go for a long walk (no matter the weather)....

Ironically, I start my BCP the day before her EDD. my body has a weird sense of humor
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Matthew&Mark 08/24/2005 9w1d, Mattie Anne 04/07/2008 8w Mel|&Dee 01/19/2010 (8 weeks) and 5 chemical pregnancies
Hope 07/22/2012@4w1d, Konnor 11/24/2012@3w6d,"Emmy"1/15/2013@ 3w6d, Ronen 02/10/2013@3w5d, Joy 07/19/2013@3w6d, "Pea" 09/06/2013@ 3w3d

Me: Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, PCOS, Insulin resistant
175mcg Synthyroid, 1500mg Metformin
Him: MFI low count, low morphology, low motillity
Seeing MFI specialist/RE in 2015
Attempting vitamins for remainder of 2014
Weight loss goal #1 - 10% body weight 23.4lbs - accomplished July 13 2014
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November 9th, 2008, 06:59 PM
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I'm glad you are doing ok.
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