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January 8th, 2009, 01:32 PM
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January 10th, 2009, 05:56 AM
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Maybe it isn't lack of compassion- but maybe it is him being numb from the fears that recurrent loss brings. Men deal with this differently then women.[/b]


I'm sorry he was being such a donkey's behind hun. Men just don't make sense sometimes... a good fraction of sometimes. lol.

But i'm glad he did come around and help name Aiden... I love the name myself.
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After 4 miscarriages I have come to realise that men greive shorter for pregnancy loss then women. It makes sense to. Women carry the baby inside of them, so they feel the loss more. Many men don't feel attached to their children until they hold them! My DH always shows he is sad at a loss, but I grieve much longer, and towards the end he gets annoyed that I am still sad (Though he never tells me, I just know...) It doesn't mean he doesn't care, he just doesn't comprehend a loss as well.
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Maybe it isn't lack of compassion- but maybe it is him being numb from the fears that recurrent loss brings. Men deal with this differently then women.[/b]
I aso think that can be reason! Also, man like to fix things and that can be nightmare for them to be in the situation where they don’t know what and how to fix and feel helpless. One jurnalist, whos wife went through multiple pregnancies loss, said „A woman lives through a miscarriage. A man, no matter how devoted only observes it.“

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Mira, that is so true.

I kind of figured that he just doesn't know how or just doesn't want to admit (and therefore grieve)...
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