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January 18th, 2009, 05:53 PM
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So when I found out I was pregnant I signed up for the 3d pregnancy newsletter. It's actually really cool, it shows what your baby should look like according to week. They send you a newsletter every week. Since my D&C 2 weeks ago I have canceled 3 times. Yet in my inbox today, there was another! I hate the constant reminder that I am NOT pregnant anymore! Why won't they stop sending it?!?

All I can think about is the miscarriage, and trying to get pregnant again. I am wanting to spend less and less time with people, I am pulling away from my husband, and everyone in my family feels that I should be over this by now. My mother in law told me that I shouldn't be too sad because the baby doesn't get a spirit until it's born... Which totally invalidates my loss! To top it all off, I have a head cold, a terrible headache, and I have to get a filling (for my FIRST ever cavity)

I am sorry if this sounds crazy, but I am having a MAJOR meltdown! I went to go look at the August DDC boards, and everyone is so happy in their pregnancies! I don't know what to do, I amjust so sad...
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January 18th, 2009, 08:06 PM
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I'm sorry you are having a rough time.
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January 18th, 2009, 08:54 PM
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HUGS sweetie. I know it sucks, and it's even worse when those around you aren't supporting you the way you need them to.

It's super hard to get off of some of the mailer lists. I didn't stop receiving several until my twins would have been over a year old and I unsubscribed as soon as I found out I was losing them....

We are here for you, either on the board or via PM anytime you need us.
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January 18th, 2009, 09:48 PM
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I hope that you know that your a mother of angel no matter what anyone says. There is no amount of time to get over your lost, it is your child and that's what others need to respect.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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January 19th, 2009, 08:01 PM
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((Hugs)) I'm sorry no one understands how hard this is for you
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January 20th, 2009, 04:01 AM
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Hugs to you!!! We have all been there.

You do not have to just "get over it". I hate it when people say that. Your MIL sounds like my MIL....I wanted to punch her right in the face when she would talk to me. So...I just quit talking to her.

Your feelings are real.....and normal. To this day I still cry and am sad over the loss of my babies. No one else (except for these ladies) remembers that I have lost 4 babies to heaven. DH doesn't ever comment on it. Does it frustrate me? Yes, but I just come on here and vent. The ladies here understand.

Sometimes for me it was nice to just have a place to write down what I was feeling....Most of the time it didn't make sense, but I didn't care. It felt good to get the frustration out. Oh, and I never went back and re-read what I had written. Most of the time I was sobbing as I was typing, but afterwards I felt better.

Let us know what we can do to help!!! PM any of us...we are here to help!
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January 20th, 2009, 07:49 AM
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Thanks! You ladies are so great! I actually felt much better after some sleep! I realised I can make some pretty rash decisions when I am upset, so I didn't even speak to hubby! It was weird, I have never experienced this kind of random sadness before. But this has definitely been the worst of my 4 miscarriages...
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January 20th, 2009, 04:03 PM
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I had a d\c in September I remember going back every now and then to check up in my old DDC. Why they heck do we do this, It just makes things worse ,but we still do it. I am so sorry that you are having to go through this right now. I remember sitting here in front of my computer just bawling my eyes out. But I needed that !!!

Keep your chin up !!!
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