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March 23rd, 2010, 05:24 PM
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I know, I know this is like the most innocent question/comment ever - but still bothering me as people question why I've been absent from life and will only get more question through the next week.

Really, I'm fine. Emotionally - I'm fine. I know possible causes of m/c, and I also know it is very unexplained. I"m fine with that. I truely believe everything happens for a reason. I know it hurts some people, but its what I believe. Physically - that is another story. Between cramping and bleeding i feel like crap! I don't know - it does kinda sting. And when I have to explain "really, I am fine." I feel like I'm cold-hearted. I know I can't change anything, I cried Sunday a good bit, and I'm just moving on. Praying it doesn't happen again. I don't know...I just need a mini-rant right now! I know I"m going to deal with it at least another what seems like a hundred times before everything is said and done. I just hate the question and when I say I'm fine - I feel like I'm lying when I really am not.
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March 24th, 2010, 05:56 AM
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I'm sorry, sweetie. The question that bugged me the most was "Are you going to try again?" Or, from the few that don't know, "When are you two gonna have kids?" (I was especially asked this a lot after losing Aiden (my third) because my younger sister was pregnant with an "oopsie" baby.)
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March 24th, 2010, 06:03 AM
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I have to agree with Augie...."Are you going to try again?" That's an extremely personal question that most people don't know affects those of us deeply that have had loses. Especially multiple loses....for some folks though it's just ignorance....they just can't know how it feels.....
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March 24th, 2010, 06:35 AM
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Oh yes. "Are you going to try for another" always bugs me (any family planning..). We've been getting that question for about a year now. The older DD gets the more people ask. I wonder if maybe they'll leave it alone for awhile. That'd be nice to think anyways. I know DD wont leave it alone -but she is also 3.5, almost 4. She doesn't understand so she gets a free pass
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March 24th, 2010, 05:50 PM
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I dislike the "you shouldn't have anymore". Like its any of their business.
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March 25th, 2010, 06:20 PM
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Ok my hormones must be on high gear today!
A coworker said something implying that I was just taking some days off for "strep" or a "cold". Teacher = exposure to germs non-stop, therefore those are not good excuses to miss 3 days! I snapped back, "well actually......I had a misscarriage." I was pissed! Then, my normal OB called to check on me, etc. He wants me to follow up with him instead of the other OB (not sure it matters but whatever - I don't like the appt time so we'll see if he doesn't have something around lunch break time). But on the voice mail he left, he said "we can discuss birth control options, or well, not, I mean no birth control." Seriously, without the m/c I hate this topic. Even more so now. I said at my annual birth control we'll use NFP and if we get pregnant we get pregnant no biggie. Birth contorl has done a number on my body and I just want my body "normal" or close too. birth control is not the answer to fix whatever hormonal imbalances I may have. It is just so frustrating to have to justify our decision to not use birth control (IUD, the pill, shot, etc). I just hate feeling like we're irresponsible because we're not "TTC" and don't plan too for anotehr 1.5-2 years. Therefore we should just go with the IUD. What is the harm in NFP? Seriously!? I'm sure they just don't get their kickbacks from the pharma company - but whatever! Not my problem.
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March 25th, 2010, 10:49 PM
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I had the same probs with OBS and the pill--It will fix this and it will fix that--the crap made me sick I don't think it is something they should push onto women
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March 26th, 2010, 06:31 AM
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Sounds like there's a lot of folks in your life that seem to think they know what's better for your life than you and your dh do....which can be so frustrating. I have had this same problem. People always seem to think they know whats good or right for us. NOT! We can be the judge of whats good for our family and whats not...right? Ugh....
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