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September 9th, 2010, 12:15 PM
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Adoption.

Is it an option for you? If so, have you actively pursued it, or are you saving it until you know for sure you're done TTC?
I think adoption is a wonderful thing, but I don't think we're at a stage in our lives where we'd adopt. Not to say we'd never do it, but right now it's not an option for us.

How does your SO feel about it?
He's more against it than I am. I know if I ever wanted to adopt, he could easily end up being a barrier to that.

When talking about RPL, do people ever say "well at least you can adopt." If so, how do you feel about those comments?
People used to say that to me all.the.time. While I think that adoption is a beautiful thing, it's not the tried and true solution to recurrent losses. It didn't fix the fact that I couldn't easily bear my own children, and I knew that it came with it's own heartaches and grief.
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September 9th, 2010, 01:17 PM
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I'm very open about it actually. I have several adopted friends and several RL friends who are adopting.
DH and I agreed that we would adopt if TTC didn't work out.
And honestly, it looks like it isn't working out for us. We will give it one more GOOD try, probably.

But it'll be awhile before we can adopt, since the law here is that you need to be 28 OR married for 2+ years. We've been married for long enough, but we are only 23 so I'm afraid it might be a better idea to wait a few years to have better chances.

In the context of RPL, I usually try to mention adoption before people do. I don't want them to mention it to me, but I don't mind discussing it if I brought it up first. Interestingly, most of them seem to think it's crazy for us to even be thinking of adoption at this point, because we are so young.
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September 9th, 2010, 01:34 PM
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Adoption.

Is it an option for you? If so, have you actively pursued it, or are you saving it until you know for sure you're done TTC?

We go back and forth. We have said yes to one opportunity and possibly to another. Both fell through. Earlier today I was ready to adopt NOW. Now, I want to wait. We will adopt, just not sure when.

How does your SO feel about it?

He's willing, just wants to wait.

When talking about RPL, do people ever say "well at least you can adopt." If so, how do you feel about those comments?
I haven't been told that but I can assure you I wouldn't be nice in my reply.
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September 9th, 2010, 08:28 PM
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Is it an option for you? For sure!

If so, have you actively pursued it, or are you saving it until you know for sure you're done TTC? Waiting to see what happens with having our own, first.


How does your SO feel about it?
He is now very open to it, whereas before he was NOT!

When talking about RPL, do people ever say "well at least you can adopt." If so, how do you feel about those comments?
Yes, they do. It makes me want to punch them in the face, to be blunt
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