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I have been reading every book, visiting every website, talking to every person I can about causes of mc, how to prevent, etc... I was sure it would help me calm down a little, since knowledge is power. Well just the opposite has happened. I'm freaked! There are so many reason why women can/do mc. I was talking with a friend who is a pregnancy nurse, and I made the comment that if I could just carry till my 2nd trimester I was sure then everything would be ok. She then thought it was smart to tell me about all the risks and worst case possibility that can happen even then and after. So that got me reading and researching. I'm now terrified! I thought a well informed person is a calm person. That is not so!!!!!
Yikes...I'm sorry you are freaked, but knowledge truly is power.
The more you know, the more likely you are to be able to prevent future miscarriages. 2nd trimester miscarriages do happen, but they aren't super common, so I wouldn't worry yourself to death over it.
At the end of the day, all we can do is try our best to get pregnant & stay pregnant. If it's going to happen, it's out of your control, ya know? No need to stress yourself over it.
I hope you are able to carry a healthy baby to term very soon!
*hugs* I think Amber gave great advice. I'm sorry your friend scared you even more. Yes, things can/do go wrong BUT in knowing that we can help ourselves more. For example, I have a clotting disorder. To help prevent another m/c or a stillbirth I will be on Heparin during my next pregnancy.
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I agree with both of these ladies. I believe it's less than 1% of women who have 2nd trimester m/cs. And the more you know the better care you can take for yourself. I'm one of the few who did suffer a 2nd trimester loss. That's when I started all of my research and discovered baby aspirin therapy. Thanks to that discovery I pushed my RE to allow me to try it and I had my rainbow baby.
Try to take it one second at a time, the fear can really take over. Hugs.
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