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October 21st, 2010, 01:29 PM
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I love you ladies and am so happy for each and every one of you when you get your rainbow babies but lately I can't help feeling a little left behind. I've been on this board since 2008. Since then just about every member has gone on to have a successful pregnancy...except me. At least that's how it feels, I know there are two others, but I still feel alone. Every time I see a pregnancy announcement from ANYONE I stop and ask "Why not me!?" "When will I get MY turn!?" I know this may seem childish and I try not to, but it's get harder and harder to not be at least a little bit jealous.
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October 21st, 2010, 01:47 PM
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October 21st, 2010, 03:41 PM
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I am so sorry that it is so hard. I know that on another board I am on, it is the same way for me. I just wanted to give you some
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October 21st, 2010, 04:11 PM
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Thanks for sharing Augie. I remember how awful of a feeling it was, I really do. I know that almost every single woman on this board feels anger and jealousy when they find out someone else is pregnant. It's just human nature, but know you're not alone! We're all here for you! Hugs.
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October 21st, 2010, 05:47 PM
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You are definitely not alone on feeling that way!
I have been on here since August 08', as well. It is really hard to watch everyone elses' life grow while yours stays the same.
I feel like I'm running in a big circle.
Big hugs! I hope you feel better tomorrow!
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October 21st, 2010, 06:04 PM
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I am so sorry it is very hard
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October 21st, 2010, 06:48 PM
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I am sorry you are feeling bad! You will get a sticky BFP eventually! It took me almost 6 years to get this good pregnancy....
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October 21st, 2010, 08:07 PM
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Augie I am so sorry. I have moments like this. I have to be careful about visiting the TTCAL board because of it.

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October 21st, 2010, 08:18 PM
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I am sorry Augie, big hugs to you. I remember feeling the same way for several years, it's really hard.
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October 21st, 2010, 10:12 PM
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a big huge ditto from me! BUT, at least you got the man to at least get you one step further!

but seriously. I know what you mean. all my friends are knocked up, have kids, or at least have men. I'm stuck, not moving forward, not moving backwards.
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October 22nd, 2010, 06:56 AM
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(((HUGS))) It took me 9 years to get my first rainbow baby. I felt like a failure as a woman, as a mother. My 17 year old cousin had a baby 3 years before I did and that hurt so much.
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October 22nd, 2010, 10:58 AM
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I know how you feel. My sister had her 1st baby at 16, another at 17. And my youngest sister just had twins at 18. It's hard. As much as you want to just be happy for everyone else you can't help but be upset and wonder why not me? That is something I've been trying to deal with as well. Hugs. It's perfectly normal to feel the way you do, so don't beat your self up over it. I'm sure you will get that rainbow baby as well.
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October 22nd, 2010, 01:36 PM
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I am so sorry. I hope that you soon get your rainbow baby.
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October 22nd, 2010, 02:28 PM
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I totally understand too. That is why I found this board. I still visit my DDs playroom, but all the other ladies have gone on to have healthy babies.. some of them have 2 more by now. And I was one of the first to start to ttc.
It's bittersweet. You are very happy for them all.. but at the same time thinking What Gives??
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October 22nd, 2010, 06:59 PM
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I'm so sorry hun. I remember those dark days. I struggled for 9yrs before I had my 1st rainbow baby and was a shell of the person I am now. I remember being told by my RE I wouldn't conceive on my own and wasn't a candidate for treatment because it would make my condition worse. Don't ever loose hope hun. I don't know when it will happen or how but don't ever loose hope.
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