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May 10th, 2011, 10:01 AM
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I can't decide if I'm excited or not. Our adoption workshop is this weekend. Part of me is enjoying not stressing about becoming parents to a living child. Another part feels rushed to make it happen...I know that stems from BIL's wife pressuring him to ttc. We were trying long before they MET. They can't possibly have a kid before us...I don't think my mental health could handle it.

Also, I worry that going to the seminar will do one of two things.
  1. Make it seem completely unrealistic that we'll be able to adopt any time in the semi-near future, therefore making me feel like even more of a failure.
  2. Re-light the fire under my butt causing me to butt heads with DH again. He's already said that he doesn't want to jump into anything right now.
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May 10th, 2011, 11:21 AM
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i know how you feel. my cousin is getting married this fall, that means that puts her next on the ttc list... at 2yrs younger, it'd make my head explode.

just go and enjoy yourselves and the education they'll provide for adopting. You can make your decisions after that
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May 10th, 2011, 07:25 PM
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I hope and pray that there is a third option there that your DH will get the fire that he needs to feel comfortable going forward with adoption. There are so many wonderful children out there that deserve amazing parents like you.
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May 11th, 2011, 09:53 AM
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Hugs Augie! That must be frustrating and intimidating for you both. I think that knowledge can be power though, and it's nice to at least know your options and have a jumping off point for your next step. Good luck!
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May 11th, 2011, 10:32 AM
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Ugh infertility issue really hurt my first marriage. Even after we divorved I went ahead and adopted the foster child we got.

just because things look bad now doesn't mean things won't chnage.

If you are going to adopt I strongly recommend a newborn, or infant, not a toddler or an older child who had an intact first few years.
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