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November 2nd, 2011, 10:41 AM
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What's the worst rpl piece of advice you've gotten from a family member?

What's the worst rpl piece of advice you've gotten from a Friend?

What's the worst rpl piece of advice you've gotten from a Medical personnel?
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November 2nd, 2011, 01:18 PM
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Only got bad advice from a friend. She said, I should read the book "The Ring" because if I could get over my negativity, I would stop having miscarriages. I can't even go on because that pisses me off on so many levels I don't want to get into it.

Family and doctors never gave advice.
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November 2nd, 2011, 02:18 PM
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What's the worst rpl piece of advice you've gotten from a family member? Can't really think of anything here....

What's the worst rpl piece of advice you've gotten from a Friend? Um...coworker about adopting after RPL "Oh, don't do that! You're too young! You have plenty of time." Thanks, I'm 27, have four babies in Heaven, and five years of trying under my belt. When will I have been through enough for it to be ok?

What's the worst rpl piece of advice you've gotten from a Medical personnel? Not advice, but I had an ER nurse tell me my pregnancies didn't count because they were so early.
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November 2nd, 2011, 02:32 PM
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What's the worst rpl piece of advice you've gotten from a family member? You know, you need to stop grieving already (from MIL)

What's the worst rpl piece of advice you've gotten from a Friend? Oh no don't adopt, you still have plenty of time to have kids!

What's the worst rpl piece of advice you've gotten from a Medical personnel? Don't worry about it, 3 miscarriages isn't that bad I have patients with more than 10 before they get their baby!
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November 2nd, 2011, 02:44 PM
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What's the worst rpl piece of advice you've gotten from a family member? It has to be happening for a reason.

What's the worst rpl piece of advice you've gotten from a Friend? I don't get why it's a big deal, stop testing and freaking out, it'll happen when it's supposed to

What's the worst rpl piece of advice you've gotten from a Medical personnel? Don't test early, don't ask for early diagnostics. The less you know, the easier it will be.
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Me: Hashi's, PCOS, Insulin resistant
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Him: MFI low count, low morphology, low motillity
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November 2nd, 2011, 04:30 PM
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What's the worst rpl piece of advice you've gotten from a family member? It'll be alright God had a reason for you to lose that baby

What's the worst rpl piece of advice you've gotten from a Friend? Oh wow, Time to start using protection.

What's the worst rpl piece of advice you've gotten from a Medical personnel? Well next time try to find out as soon as you can. And don't ride any roller coasters.
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November 2nd, 2011, 08:40 PM
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Family: when they say "relax and it will happen" or "trust in God"

Medical: not really advice...but you are so young, your body can't handle it...o.O
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November 3rd, 2011, 01:27 AM
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Quote:
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God had a reason for you to lose that baby
Oh yeah, I hate that one too. The God *I* believe in would not take babies away from any of us and grieves with us when they die.
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November 4th, 2011, 11:03 AM
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From a Family Member- You are being obsessive with this pregnancy thing(from my own sister who knows what I've been through, I ripped her a new one for saying this)

From a Friend-nothing really

From a Medical Professional-During my 2nd M/C this doctor actually chuckled and said, "just stop bleeding".... I called the administrator about it.
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November 6th, 2011, 04:30 PM
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1. Don't bother bonding with them since you know you are losing them.

2. Grant needs a sibling or he'll be a spoiled brat.

3. I can't think of anything offhand.
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November 6th, 2011, 09:43 PM
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Quote:
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1. Don't bother bonding with them since you know you are losing them.
Oh sure, no problem. They should offer that advice to families of terminal patients.
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12/10/09 Surprise! Baby #3 is on the way, EDD 6/22/10

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6/16/10 Baby Ben is born!


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November 7th, 2011, 10:34 AM
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There really has been 1 comment that bothers me....."Well at least you already have children". I HATE hearing that one.
Yes I have 2 children but I want at least one more....
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November 7th, 2011, 07:40 PM
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Ah yes, I hear "well now you have Grant, you shouldn't care about Ethan anymore." Actually, I miss Ethan MORE, because now I know what I have been missing. And just because Grant's cotriplets died, it doesn't mean they didn't exist. They gave their lives for Grant, **** straight I still think about them and the gift they gave me.
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November 8th, 2011, 11:30 AM
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What's the worst rpl piece of advice you've gotten from a family member? "Relax and it'll happen" - actually a relative is expecting and I'm just waiting to hear from my grandma, "see, if you relax it will happen just like it did for relative...." Only grandma doesn't know that they needed medical help to conceive. There was no relaxing going on!

What's the worst rpl piece of advice you've gotten from a Friend? Majority of my friends who know "get it" and don't say anything.

What's the worst rpl piece of advice you've gotten from a Medical personnel? I had a Chemical pregnancy (my last loss) and the doctor said I just peed the baby out. Ummm, right....whatever! That is not how it works lady, I thought you went to medical school?
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