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November 3rd, 2011, 10:29 AM
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Lately, I've found that my bitterness is back. Almost every Facebook post about a pregnancy/baby/child causes me to feel very bitter. Really, it's not just facebook. JM's stupid celeb crap on the side is ticking me off too. I really don't care about who's due this month or having a baby or whatever...and I certainly have no desire to see the big pregnant belly that is on the side bar.

Of course, then there's the fact that while I know the pain would never completely disappear, I sure didn't expect to feel this bitter almost five years later! I hate this. Why do the emotions insist on resurfacing anytime I finally start to think "I'm doing pretty well"
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November 3rd, 2011, 04:15 PM
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*HUGS*

You know well that I have those cycles too, and you're usually the one there to help make it better.

Nothing we ever do will erase that bitterness, not even a sweet baby in our arms, because we cannot erase the past. And the emotions will come and go, never with warning. I think it has something to do with the Fall holidays, since most everyone I know who's dealt with RPL feels down this time of year. And they all agree, everyone seems to get pregnant or have a baby between October and January.
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November 3rd, 2011, 04:25 PM
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Thanks ladies. Ash, I think you're right. Between losing grandpa, spending Dominic's "birthday" in the car, losing Chris's grandma, Halloween, Aiden's upcoming angelversary, and the impending holiday season, this time of year just sucks.
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November 3rd, 2011, 04:54 PM
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I am very bitter also. I hate it, but I can't really control it. I'm having a hard time with my board right now b/c about 75% or more of the women on it are pregnant right now. It seems like every couple weeks someone else announces that they are, and it is hard for me to be happy for them. I do my best, and I'm supportive, but I can never get myself to do the whole "YIPPE! I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!" type of thing.

I'm especially bitter about my sister and her baby. I'm bitter that she is so incredibly lucky to have a baby (got pregnant on her first try right after getting married, no less) and her son is 2 months old and she is already back to partying and her same old self. She even posted pictures of their Halloween party on FB, and he was there. I've been to her parties before, and they are NO place for a baby. People get nasty drunk, do drugs, etc. It makes me SO mad.

Yes, I'm bitter.
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November 3rd, 2011, 07:28 PM
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Hugs. I know the bitterness is hard to deal with, especially since it can creep up at any time. I'm sorry your having a hard time.
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November 4th, 2011, 07:10 PM
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hugs to you! i feel bitter as well. seeing a woman pregnant makes me so mad. my husband and i were in the doctor's office and he wanted to play with a cute little baby. i found myself being mad @ him for wanting to play with the baby. lol. i realize how ridiculous that is but it's true.
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November 5th, 2011, 09:36 AM
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I feel you on the bitter thing! I shouldn't even feel bitter... I HAVE a baby! I just get ticked when people have such an easy time of getting pregnant! It's not fair!



I am sorry you are having a rough time....
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November 8th, 2011, 02:23 AM
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