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July 8th, 2006, 07:47 AM
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Last weekend we went to Florida so that my husband could visit a friend who is still in the service. The first day we were there, the friend dragged us along to a birthday party for a 2 year old belonging to one of his friends. Of course it was a bunch of military people there. I would say half the wives were pregnant and all of them were running after little ones. Can I say that I have never felt so uncomfortable in my life???? I just had a second miscarriage. I have no children yet at all. The guys were all talking about the military and I had absolutely nothing in common with the women. The only way I got through that was to keep telling myself that it had been several years since dh had seen his buddy. So I made it thru that.

Wednesday I had my hcg checked again to make sure it was down. Of course the nurse taking my blood had to think that I was there getting a test to see if I was pregnant. She actually asked me " Do you hope you are?" Yep I wish.

And now as I was sitting here reading the boards, I came across a message that mentioned someone's former EDD. It dawned on me that I made it through yesterday July 7th all day and never thought once about the fact that it was my first EDD. On the one hand I feel sad that I never even acknowledged it but on the other hand I feel relieved that it was somehow blocked from my mind. I dunno if God was working mysteriously or what. It was a lot easier to get past then I ever anticipated.

Now its on to ttc yet again.
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July 8th, 2006, 11:13 AM
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Oh hun I hate that story. I wish you coul dhave said you went to the party, had a lovely time..yadda, yadda. It doesn't seem to work that way though - especially when you hit that age where everyone else has started families too. There is no place you can go where it feels right sometimes. I think you did awesome & you were incredibly kind to Dh in your intentions & actions. I hope he sees that.

I am also feeling perhaps you went through your EDD without thinking of it becasue that is what you needed to do. I think perhaps on some subconscious level perhaps you knew - but you weren't in the right place to have to be thinking about it & I think it is great that you have gotten past it & hope now that brings you some closure.

Wishing you all the best hun!
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July 8th, 2006, 05:02 PM
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Oh hun I hate that story. I wish you coul dhave said you went to the party, had a lovely time..yadda, yadda. It doesn't seem to work that way though - especially when you hit that age where everyone else has started families too. There is no place you can go where it feels right sometimes. I think you did awesome & you were incredibly kind to Dh in your intentions & actions. I hope he sees that.

I am also feeling perhaps you went through your EDD without thinking of it becasue that is what you needed to do. I think perhaps on some subconscious level perhaps you knew - but you weren't in the right place to have to be thinking about it & I think it is great that you have gotten past it & hope now that brings you some closure.

Wishing you all the best hun! [/b]
Sometimes the subconscious can be really helpful I think! You are definitely right about the closure. I hadn't thought of being past that date as closure, until you mentioned it. That is a good way to look at it. Thank you for that insight Beck!
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July 9th, 2006, 10:39 PM
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Stephanie,
i can relate well being around women your same age bracket who have children and or pg and you just sit...feeling left out, sad, and for me even inadequate at times....
Your EDD passing w/o thinking about it...i agree that the Lord works mysteriously and this has everything to do with what's right for you. Try to feel at peace knowing He was looking out for you and that though your EDD has past, your love for your baby continues you on...no matter what day of the year it is!
Hugs to you,
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