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July 9th, 2006, 05:56 PM
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I have looked into all types of adoption to one degree or another. I know this is a very real possibility for DH & I at some point, whether we have a successful pg or not. I want a big family - or as big as I can afford - so I will not be able to do this enough times to make that happen - I have accepted that. So occassionally I go looking through the children available through foster. I am not ready yet - but for some reason - I sitll want to read up - maybe get used to the idea. TOday I came across some children in another state - 4 of them avaiable for adoption. I thought they appeared to be very close in age & as I read I realized they are quadruplets...and not identical. They are 8 & it looks like one of the boys has cerebal palsey (although this wasn't mentioned in the bio). It brought up so many ethical questions for me as to why someone would use fertility meds (as I am certain was the case in 4 fraternal babies) and then not have them with mom or dad? I don't know their history - as it doesn't tell details - so I suppose something could have happened where both parents passed & there was no one capable - but wow. It just made me sad...to think that I am certain these babies had to be badly wanted in order for meds to be used & for mom to be willing to go through a pg for quads is no small undertaking. I jsut don't know what I am even trying to say except it has thrown me for a loop...like I can't wrap my head around why or what happened there. It seems very very tragic.
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July 9th, 2006, 07:20 PM
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It does make you wonder what happened. I would agree with you that naturally conceiving quads is rare enough to make the alarm bells go off (I was curious and checked. In one survey, it was 5% of all quads, and 0% for quints and higher). I hope their story has a happy ending, although realistically it's probably a long shot that they'll all get adopted, much less to the same family.
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