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what are my chances I'll miscarry again? Am I just too young? Will I always have this


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January 18th, 2012, 07:57 AM
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I'm 14 and newly pregnant this time. It's with my bf that I very much love. I know I'm pretty young. But my problem is I'm scared. I've had a miscarriages before. I miscarried at 6 or 7 weeks. I'm scared like if I'm infertile or am I just physically not mature? I've had my period 4 years... I just wish if it's true I never was pregnant like ignorance is bliss. They were like re-runs. I just can't help but think in a few weeks I'll be going back into the same emotions I had last time... I already feel weary of pregnancy like I'll never get to have my lo it's just a tease. I don't know if I'm even telling anyone including my bf yet. I don't want others to know if I can't have this baby. Idk advice?
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January 18th, 2012, 08:15 AM
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I honestly hope this goes well for you. I don't know how much age/physical maturity have to do with it, but 14 is so young.

My advice? If this doesn't go well, and does end in miscarriage, then you should use protection and worry about it later. You have SO MUCH TIME to have babies. Right now you should focus on things that are more important that will better your own life and any babies you do have down the line: like high school. Taking care of a baby is so hard and it takes over everything. I wasn't able to go back and finish my degree when I wanted because I don't feel like I can with small children.

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January 18th, 2012, 08:34 AM
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Okay I am first going to post from an MD perspective.....You are extremely young and yes it can very much play a roll in pregnancy, miscarriage, etc. It is in no way an indicator of fertility issues, your body is simply not equipped to handle a pregnancy. Does it mean you will M/c, absolutely not. You may fly through this pregnancy fine, but please know due to your age and where your body is developmentally you can be at risk for a pre term baby and other complications. Again not an indicator of how pregnancies will go when you are older.
Now as a mommy of angels - I do wish your pregnancy well, take your vitamins, eat well, and take care of your self. If you are unfortunate and suffer another m/c , please take care of your self, and like Britt said use protection, live your life, finish school, college, and then think about babies. Hugs.
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January 18th, 2012, 08:53 AM
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I wasn't trying I just don't even know if I should tell like my bd or anything or even pretending I'm going to ctt. I wouldn't try to put myself through it again... I just don't know what to do now. I feel like it's not going to end well.
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January 18th, 2012, 09:14 AM
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I've tried to respond to this post three times and I'm just getting angrier and angrier, so I'm going to leave it at this and hope that this is not a cruel joke.

At 14, your body is not fully mature, so yes, that can lead to miscarriage and difficulty carrying a pregnancy to term. At 14, you are not physically or emotionally ready to make the decision to build your family, nor are you capable of owning your own home, your own car, etc. to be able to take care of that child and have a roof over their head. Hiding a pregnancy from your significant other is never a good idea, nor is it a good idea to try and get pregnant without their knowledge.

I don't wish a miscarriage on anyone, so I hope things go well for you. I'd suggest letting your SO know, and trying to get in to see a doctor soon if you are truly concerned about miscarriage.
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January 18th, 2012, 12:30 PM
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your first step should be to see a doctor and get under proper medical care. Being young, even having had your period for years doesn't truly mean you're ready to carry a baby.

I wish you well, and I hope this works out the way you wish it too.

As for not telling the father... that is your choice, and I won't tell you that you HAVE to do it. I sit here today mourning two baby girls I lost two years ago, and I didn't tell their father either. But, as an adult, I regret that choice and wish I hadn't done it. I will tell you that living with regrets over it are not fun, and if I was in your shoes, I'd be telling him.

And if this does result in a miscarriage, please consider more effective means of protection, even if that means not having sex at all for a long while.
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January 29th, 2012, 09:40 AM
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Ive been lurking for a bit but I just need to ask if this a joke? I mean I can't imagine a 14 year old trying to get pregnant. Who is going to support your baby? Are u even old enough to work? How old is your boyfriend and is he willing to quit school and work full time? If he is older than 18 aren't you worried he will get in trouble for statutory rape? What do your parents think are they willing to support you and you baby financially?

If you truly are serious I recommend getting medical care, eating well, taking vitamins and looking into a home schooling program or continuing education program. Maybe find some odd jobs on weekends in order to save some money. You need a high school diploma first and foremost!
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