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Not because of a loss. I am just starting to feel secure in life again to be on message boards. I can't remember the last time I was in here. I don't remember how I left, if I filled you in on what's going on etc.
I'll give you the shortened version-believe it or not. lol Last year was my biggest loss with the heterotopic twins(that put me at 5 losses), in January. I spiraled into a depression that I thought I was fighting off ok on my own. My husband had a relapse episode with alcohol in June (just a 1 time thing & he's been sober since) & that put me deeper into depression. At the end of last year, it became more obvious to me that I'm not ok. Our insurance pretty much doubled starting January, which made it so we couldn't afford it. We got on short tern insurance until we could find a plan that we could afford.
I finally saw my PCP & got a script for some anti-depressants. She said she understood my fear of them causing another miscarriage because of my history & it was only a matter of time before I would have to give in & get help so I can get better mentally. So, I am WAY better now! It has made a HUGE difference in my life.
Getting new insurance meant that I was able to choose from a much bigger pool of drs. A dr., whom I've heard has helped many women who have suffered multiple miscarriages have carried pregnancies to term after seeing him, is now available for me to see! It took me a couple of months to decide if I was really ready to go down that road again......you know telling your entire story, hoping to get some answers only to be told you have bad luck again. What if that were going to happen? I don't think I could handle it. But I decided that if I don't want to live the rest of my life wondering....what if, I HAVE to see him.
So, I had my appt. last month. This dr. believes that if you have 1 miscarriage, you need to be tested to rule out anything that can cause you to miscarriage again. That's right.....I said ONE! He doesn't believe it is good practice to allow a women to go through the pain & stress of multiple miscarriages only to find out that possibly one thing could help her carry to term the next time she gets pregnant.
So, he ran a bunch of blood tests on me. He found that I have 2 blood clotting disorders: MTHFR-both (which I already knew) & PAI-1 4G/4G (I don't believe I was ever tested for this). To "fix" this, I need to increase my folic acid intake to 2000mgs, take a vitamin B complex, & baby aspirin everyday. Then, when I do become pregnant again, I will have to be put on Lovenox (which all of my previous drs. refused to have me do, even though I begged them to ).
He also wants to do something else the other drs have never done. Since it has been so long since I was last pregnant, he wants to make sure that my body isn't killing off the sperm before they even get a chance. So, he said we will have to have intercourse & then come into the office for him to swab my cervix & run the test.
I finally feel comfortable where I am to where hearing about other people's losses or even pregnancies don't throw me into a bad place. So, I am back in here if you will take me back!
Well that sounds like some fantastic positive news to me! I think I need to come on over and get in to that doctor myself! lol.
I hope that after your post-coitial test they are able to give you an all clear and get you pregnant with a sticky baby. I know Augie has that hostile cm thing, I don't remember everything she does to combat it. I know I've seen some ladies who use a mucinex and pre seed combo.
Good luck, keep us posted and I'm so glad you're feeling better!
~TTC #1 together 1 year and counting ~
Battling Estrogen Dominance, Hashimoto's Thyroiditis and Recurrent Miscarriage one day at a time
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Wow! Your doctor sounds great. It is really hard to find a doctor who is willing to be so proactive about miscarriages. You might want to do some research on L-methylfolate. Women with the MTHFR mutation do not properly metabolize synthetic folic acid. L-methylfolate is active and already broken down so it bypasses the MTHFR mutation. It is something simple and safe you can do to be sure folate deficiency is not contributing to your losses. Best of luck to you!
good luck. I am glad you found a doctor that makes you feel comfortable. I haven't been to the doctor since my last loss. I don't know if I want to go. Part of me wants to just see what is wrong and go, and my husband thinks we should just wait it out and see what happens. I don't iknow. Haven't decided.