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September 25th, 2012, 09:35 PM
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Hi, My name is Jen. I am currently still pregnant. I had an ultrasound on monday only to find that my baby had died. I was measuring 16 weeks, so it must of happened recently. I am on blood thinners so my doctor wanted to wait until friday to do a D&C. I have never had one and do not know what to expect really. If anyone can tell me what to expect, that would be great. I have had several losses, but this was my first later term loss. I am overcome with grief. I can barely function now. I cry all the time, and have not slept yet. I can't deal with this. It is killing me that I am sitting her with a dead baby inside me when I should be feeling those first kicks. I hate this so much.
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September 25th, 2012, 10:54 PM
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I'm so sorry sweetie. *hugs*

I've never had a d&c, I've only needed surgery once for a miscarriage and they were able to use another technique so I can't help you there. I hope someone else can.

I know one of our girls just had a later term loss, she was induced and gave birth to her little one last week.

*hugs*
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September 26th, 2012, 10:09 AM
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*hugs* I'm so sorry for your losses.

I had a D&C with my last loss but it was so much more complicated than normal (due to it being a corneal heterotopic pregnancy) so I can't off a lot of help there.
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September 26th, 2012, 04:19 PM
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Hi Jen,
I am so extremely sorry for your loss! Even though I was not as far along as you (9weeks) I do remember feeling all those feelings and even had to try adavan to try to sleep and calm myself down.
I had a D&C with my first loss, basically for me I went into the OR and they put me asleep, I was awake 1/2 hour later but didn't feel any pain. I went home a couple hours later. I had light to medium bleeding (like a light period for me).

About 6 days later I started having contractions every 5 minutes and then a blood clot would come (first the size of a golf ball then up to a fist size). Finally I saw a weird piece of tissue pass and then all that craziness ended (this all happened in the middle of the night for about 2 hours).
Stupidly I didn't call a dr, even though I should have, but went and saw my family dr first thing the next day. She said the OB must have missed a piece of tissue and to watch for signs of infection (temperature and other vital signs) but everything worked out after that.

Take care and PM me if you have any questions.
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September 27th, 2012, 05:41 PM
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Thank you, I am really scared. Hopefully mine will go as "easy" as that minus the blood clots afterwards. I just don;t see anything easy about this tho. I did ok all day today, but it just hit me that I am not going to be pregnant after 7am in the morning. Even tho the baby has passed, I am going to try to enjoy my last belly rub tonight before bed.
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September 27th, 2012, 07:06 PM
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With my first two losses I had d&c's, the first was due to heavy bleeding the second was due to bleeding that lasted nearly 6 weeks. Both times I was put under and woke up what felt like minutes later with no pain or bleeding. No complication at all....actually felt a little guilty because I had no pain.
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September 28th, 2012, 09:46 AM
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Hope all goes well today (as well as can be expected).
Thinking of you.
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September 28th, 2012, 10:38 AM
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hey Jen,

Again I am so sorry. About not sleeping that is really difficult. I have been very careful to sleep at night the long empty nights are so long! I have been taking two benedryl (unisom, Tylenol PM, allergy pills are the same) to help me sleep.

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October 2nd, 2012, 08:08 PM
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Hello. I'm a bit late. But I wanted to send big your way. My last loss was later. Somewhere in the beginning of the 2nd Trimester. But mine was a natural loss so I'm not too much help.
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October 3rd, 2012, 04:20 PM
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Hi ladies,
Its been almost a week since my d&c. All went fairly well. Dr said I was very infected inside. The fluid was not normal at all she said...so far that is all I know. It was all sent off to be tested, so we will know next week hopefully what happened and the gender of the baby.
I am still having emotional days. I cry daily, and can't seem to be able to think about it yet with out tears.
Today i wrecked my van, so my nerves are totally shot and I am about to just give up even trying to be happy.
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October 3rd, 2012, 04:49 PM
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Oh I know those emotions all too well. This is completely normal and you will feel better but it takes time. It was probably 2 weeks after mine that I finally left the house. Your hormones are all over the place and of course with that brings crazy emotions.

I hope you are okay after your accident! Don't give up on being happy, it will come... I know what it's like having to put on a fake smile (so many people didn't know I was pregnant and so I had to put on a fake smile to pretend that nothing happened and I didn't just lose my little angel, my nephew caught me crying one day and I had to make up a lie).

Take care and know we are all here for you

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October 6th, 2012, 09:44 PM
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Thank you. The past few days have been better. I even went shopping today, and made it out of the store without crying. I did have a little break down in the van on the way home, but I did not break down in the store. I call that progress. I dread going to my 2 week check up at my OB office. I dread seeing all the happy pregnant ladies. I am trying so hard to not be angry and bitter. I know God has a good reason that he took that baby, and I pray he blesses me with another one when the time is right.
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October 7th, 2012, 07:01 PM
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Oh Jen I am so sorry about your van.

I was so anxious at my two week visit too. I am still thinking of you.
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