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Is there one Angelversary/EDD that's harder for you than the rest?

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November 15th, 2012, 09:36 AM
plan4fate's Avatar I may bend, but not break
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Since we all have multiple losses, I'm just wondering if there's one that's harder on you than the rest. And why do you think that is?

For me, it's Matthew and Mark hands down. I think having to make the decision to terminate or wait for a stillbirth somehow affected the way I view things and now I can't get past it.

I also suspect Hope's EDD and Angelversary are going to be incredibly hard because she was the first loss that I was actually TRYING to conceive. I don't know if it will be harder than the boys or not.
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November 15th, 2012, 12:06 PM
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February just sucks for me because I have 5 EDD's and an angelversary in that month. My last three losses are all still very raw for me, I break down at every milestone. I don't think it helps taht two of my cousins are pregnant and due right before I was.

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November 15th, 2012, 05:25 PM
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Onyx's without a dubt. I guess because I was farther along. I am still dreading her 2nd EDD anniversary.
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November 15th, 2012, 06:42 PM
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The date of my last loss... because its the only one I had to have a D&C for.
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November 16th, 2012, 08:29 PM
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I imagine Seth's supposed to be birthday will be hard(Feb 1, 2013) and his Angelversary as well. Mostly because at 18 weeks he was so much more tangible and his birth was pretty tramatic. The time is also quite hard with Rebecca's angelversary being 9/9 Beau's birthday being 9/10 Seth had no hearbeat 9/11 and was deliveried 9/13. my irrational fear is that I will have a Rainbow baby on his first angelversary FRIDAY sept 13, 2013.
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November 18th, 2012, 04:39 AM
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It used to be Gwen's...I was farthest along with her. I think the twins are overtaking that though.

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November 26th, 2012, 10:38 PM
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I think for me it is my 1st EDD Nov2nd because it is when "it all started". It used to be the loss date for them because that is when it felt like it all came crashing down, but that ended up being the day Jonah was born 2 yrs later. So fate has a weird sense of humor & that day is a day for remembering & for celebrating now. That is hands down the day I see the sun & rain in my life clearer than any other for sure.
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