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December 4th, 2012, 11:33 PM
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This is my third miscarriage in a row.

When I was pregnant with our son (who is now 3) I had never had any miscarriages before. So I thought we were perfectly healthy and would have no trouble having more children.

I just wish I understood why and what's wrong, you know? And I am starting to worry that our son will forever be an only child unless we decide to adopt, which isn't really a bad option, but still.

Anyway, sorry if this intro post reads more like a sad page out of someone's diary.

What I mean to say is: "Hello. Nice to meet you. I'm sorry we're all here."
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December 4th, 2012, 11:51 PM
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Hello nice to meet you too. I am sorry you are here! I had three losses in a row after Scarlett and then had two perfect Rainbow babies.
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December 5th, 2012, 08:07 AM
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Hello, nice to meet you too. I am so sorry for your losses.
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December 5th, 2012, 01:22 PM
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I'm so sorry for your losses. Has your OB suggested any testing?
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December 5th, 2012, 05:45 PM
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Welcome to our little corner of the JM world. I wish we didn't have to be here either.

I'm with Augie, has your OB done any testing on you yet?
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December 6th, 2012, 01:14 AM
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Haven't done any testing yet. DH and I are still discussing whether we want to do the chromosomal testing at all. Since all we could do if there was something wrong is use a donated egg or sperm or adopt. And siince we have our son, we know its possible for us to have children together.
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December 8th, 2012, 01:33 AM
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I am sorry to welcome you! I am glad you found a place to talk about your losses & to ask questions & get support. Feel free to share here & to ask anything you want.

It is not true that your only option are donation or adoption if you have a chromosome issue. You can do IVF with PGD (preimplantation genetic diagnosis) and have seen success stories from that here. Or you can keep trying (like Dh & I did) and have healthy children still (we have two). All a chromosome issue usually does is increase risks of loss & sometimes birth defect, but you just need to get the results & go over them with a geneticist to understand your findings (if in fact there are findings). There have been other mommas with this on here as well that went the same route as me & also have healthy kiddos.

There really are more options. I will warn you that Dh's test was not covered & ran us just over $1,500 - ouch. We had NO clue until we got the bill that A - it wouldn't be covered & B - that one vial of blood could cost so much to test. Mine was covered...and we only had a small copay - and I am not even sure what it was now, because I am positive we met our deductible that year (as I had every test possible it seems).

Anyway - you can decide what you do & don't want to do & in what order. Many times when a momma has losses after a healthy pregnancy it seems it may be due to a change in health such a thyroid - so they will likely test those basics first anyway.

I am sorry for your losses momma. Don't loose hope - most of the time, if you can stay the course, you do get your rainbow baby.
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December 8th, 2012, 05:30 AM
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There is also more than just chromosomal testing. Clotting disorders increase your risk of loss and with a little help, most can carry to term.
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December 8th, 2012, 07:41 AM
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I'm sorry we have to meet like this too. I assumed that you had "limited options" due to religious convictions.

I agree to get tested bc maybe it is a small modification that would need to be made (add a medicine,etc).

But keep in mind that no matter what, you have many options still.

So I wanted to throw out the idea-- it wasnt mentioned yet. adopting an embryo. You may have to research to find a place that does this, but it would be worth it bc you'd be saving a little bean from the freezer theyre stored in. Some familes have extra embryos stored after cycles of ivf. If they're family is compete, many only get option to destroy or donate to research. So having the option for adoption may make some donor families very happy.

Good luck. Pls kup on your next steps.
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December 8th, 2012, 01:25 PM
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Sorry you're here, but nice to meet you. We had two healthy babies, so the fact that now I've had two back-to-back miscarriages has also thrown me for a loop. I didn't ever expect to be here...I'm not sure anyone does.
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