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I just joined today after my second miscarriage was confirmed this morning.
I am not even sure what I am here for, other than I am so incredibly angry and sad and just feel like no one understands. Everyone tries to be supportive and I appreciate it, but I don't even feel like my normal happy self anymore.
I have two sons (3 and 5) that I had normal pregnancies with. When we got pregnant the third time last January (w/out trying) we were pleasantly surprised, as we'd been talking about having a 3rd soon. However, at 5 1/2 weeks I started spotting. The nurse/dr thought nothing of it but did HCG level testing to be sure, and it showed I was having a miscarriage. It was a natural miscarriage and I was told to wait two cycles before trying again, which I did. Then two months later (4 months after miscarriage) I got pregnant (two weeks ago). Had spotting and then bleeding last week (again at 5 1/2 weeks). Levels tested the past few days and showed I'm already back to normal levels, so it was an early miscarriage. I guess the only silver lining is that I don't have to go sit in the dr office for an ultrasound. That was torture last time.
I am going to see my dr in 4 weeks for a checkup/clearance. The last time I did that as well after my 1st miscarriage and everything looked great. I asked the nurse if they would do any testing since this was the 2nd in a row. She said the dr would be able to talk to me more about it, but that unfortunately "these things happen like this sometimes". She made it seem as though it's somewhat common.
How can this be happening after I had two normal pregnancies? I don't know if I should insist on testing. Part of me is made because I felt like I did what I was told - I waited to try & it took a couple of months and it STILL happened. Does anyone else have successful stories about having 2 miscarriages in a row and then a successful pregnancy? Did anyone get testing done after 2 in a row? Did anyone get pregnant in the first month or two after a miscarriage and have a successful pregnancy? The nurse told me not to get pregnant for two months - at this point I just don't know what I should believe anymore.
I guess I'm just looking for stories of hope, comfort, and maybe just to know that I'm not alone in how I feel - like I'm mad at the world.
First off, sorry for your losses and welcome to the board. I say that you should get a workup. It includes lots of blood work, but it has given me answers each time. As for me, my DD was born after 5 losses. I was having clotting issues before her that were resolved. I have had 3 losses since her and we found out that it was my thyroid levels and progesterone. I am hoping to be pregnant with #2 soon. There is hope. I am so sorry that you are going through this. Anger is completely normal. I know I still get angry at what I (and my friends here) have gone through. I hope that your doctor will be sensitive to your needs because that seems to be the hardest part.
I'd demand the testing. And I'd keep going through doctors until I found one who was willing to do it.
Many of the girls on here had losses after 1 or more healthy pregnancies. Some for no reason at all.
Let us know what your doctor says when you ask for testing.
~TTC #1 together 1 year and counting ~
Battling Estrogen Dominance, Hashimoto's Thyroiditis and Recurrent Miscarriage one day at a time
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Matthew and Mark 08/24/2005 9w1d, Mattie Anne 04/07/2008 8w Mel and Dee 01/18/2010 (8 weeks) and 5 chemical pregnancies
Hope 07/22/2012@4w1dKonnor 11/24/2012@3w6d"Emmy"1/15/2013@ 3w6d
Ronen 02/10/2013@3w5d Joy 07/19/2013@3w6d "Pea" 09/06/2013@ 3w3d
I had two perfect easy pregnancies and then three losses in a row, the a healthy baby boy, and 13 months later a perfect baby girl. The boy was conceived six weeks after a chemical pregnancy. Which is a very early loss. My luck turned again and I lost a little boy for no apparent reason at 18 weeks. Three months after that lost I conceived again and we expecting a healthy baby boy in September.
I don't have the experience you're looking for, but I just want to say how sorry I am for your losses. I have had 3 (no successful pregnancies) and I know how heartbreaking it is. You're not alone. I hope you can find the answers and support you need.