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August 3rd, 2006, 03:14 PM
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What is the best advice you could give or have received following loss....

Perhaps we can make it into a sticky I was thinking...if you all might feel generous enough to share.
(I'll offer the info to Astrid as well if she wants to share it)


My best advice was to take care of myself. I hadn't been eating or sleeping - I was doing lots of coffee & cigarettes, etc - just being completley hateful toward my body after my 2nd loss. I needed someone to remind me to love me....
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August 3rd, 2006, 03:24 PM
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That it's OK to cry, vent, rant, be quiet, be short-tempered, whatever you need to work through the emotion instead of avoiding it.

Also to get lots of rest.

Great idea for a sticky, Beckie!
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August 3rd, 2006, 11:35 PM
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I had so many people telling me to "get over it" that it was all I could do to not think I was crazy for mourning souls I never knew. Until finally an online friend told me the saying I have adopted forever..."you will never GET OVER this...but you will get THROUGH it and learn to live WITH it"...
This bit of advice validated all that I felt and allowed me the courage to move forward...knowing I was not "letting go" per say of my babies but continuing on in my journey of life with some hard life lessons and an immense amount of strength and depth.
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August 4th, 2006, 06:43 AM
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I've been really needing to take heed with this great advice and even my own (it's been a rough week).

The best thing I discovered was make yourself #1 for a change. Our bodies have gone through so much and our emotions are all over the place. Now is the time to focus on you and take it to a slower pace for a bit. Cry if you feel it, get angry if you feel it, laugh if you feel it (and it's okay to laugh). There is no right or wrong way to go through this, but find what is right for you. It could also vary with each loss, and that's okay. There's no such thing as a textbook reaction.

Love yourself...
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August 4th, 2006, 03:26 PM
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The best advice I've recieved was to let myself feel whatever I was feeling.. And to understand that there is an important distinction between being "recovered" and being "in recovery".. Similar to what Norina shared, you'll never completely recover emotionally from a pg loss, but you will heal..
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