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August 15th, 2006, 11:57 AM
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Well...just over an hour I'll be sitting with DH at the RE's office. I can't believe today's finally the day. I'm surprised to admit that I'm looking forward to the appointment even though I've had a track record of bad news from doctor's lately. I really praying that we find out what's going on.

I FINALLY stopped spotting on Saturday after a month of bleeding and spotting. My temp's have been all over the place too and I'm still going for weekly "blood-letting" sessions (i.e. HCG blood tests) to make sure my levels are going down. I'm assuming they haven't since I haven't gotten the call to stop going. I took an HPT last night and there was still a faint line so I'm not out of the woods just yet. I'll be so happy when my body is back to normal.

Emotionally I've been all over the place. I'm taking things a little harder lately and getting really frustrated with this whole journey. I HATE M/C!!! I feel like my life has been in limbo and at a stand-still for 9 months now. It's all I can focus on and I hate not moving forward. I've decided to stop living for the future and start living for now. I've resolved to start looking for another job since things are getting bad here (political crap) and DH & I have decided to invest some money into home renovation projects even though our home is only 2 years old. We're going to completely finish the basement and that will give us an additional 700 sq. ft of living space, and we're going to hire a landscaper and have them do our front garden, the front walkway and the driveway. I thrive on change and I feel like I've been missing the change because I'm stuck in a horrible rutt.

So that's me in a nutshell right now.

Oh a positive note...we had an AMAZING time away. We went to the beach almost daily and we got in 2 rounds of golf. We're going back for Labour Day weekend for a mini-break as well.
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August 15th, 2006, 12:00 PM
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I hope the doc can figure out what's going on with you. I know you've been really frustrated, especially with your last OB. Praying for a great appointment, loads of help from the doc, and peace for you and hubby. I also hope you get to stop going for hcg tests soon. Not fun. Let us know how your appointment goes!
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August 15th, 2006, 04:54 PM
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Hey you - where's our update???!!!!

I really hope your appointment went great & so glad you enjoyed your time away. It is important (I am learning) to get away & just decompress. I am right there with you in trying to find a new job. Lets hope we both find dream jobs ASAP!
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August 15th, 2006, 07:16 PM
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Nicole,
We sound a lot alike. I thrive on change too, and although it's only been eight months, it feels like forever since I've felt like myself (and honestly, the pg is making me feel worse emotionally right now, not better). Have fun with all of your renovating and job hunting, and I hope the appointment went well!
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August 15th, 2006, 09:26 PM
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Update:
Well, I'm back in the throws of the 6 week cycle of testing. Lucky me has to have even more blood taken than ever before (something like 25+ vials!!!). DH & I are being tested from genetic issues, and chromosome testing (which takes 3-6 months to come back), and I'm being tested for additional things like lupus, immunity issues, thrombophelia, and other blood things. The genetic stuff won't be cheap (and OHIP doesn't cover it) but we're going to go ahead with it anyways. Some of the other blood tests aren't OHIP covered either but I don't care.

Then I have a bunch of ultrasounds, blood tests done on the same day as my ultrasound and will have an HSG done next month. I'll have another Endometrial Biopsy as well and a 3D scan so she's not missing anything. Nothing I haven't done before though and it's not really painful. I'm so thankful that she's being so thorough.

So there we go...we're on our way to finding out. Of course, we were told that around 50% of couples never find a reason but I'm okay with that too. At least we'll know we did all the tests we could and if there's nothing wrong I'll feel good in knowing that we're healthy. If something is wrong hopefully is can be treated. She mentioned a really good specialist in Toronto for blood and genetic issues if we find out anything from the tests and I'm to start taking baby aspirin daily.

I'm glad that we're on our way and she took our serious. Some doctor's won't count the EP as a m/c and only count the last 2 losses we had, but she did. I might have O'd the other day and if so then I can begin the u/s testing on CD 3 and then go back from daily scans from CD 9-15.

* Sara, I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who likes change. Most people in my familyhate it but I thrive on it.
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August 16th, 2006, 11:10 AM
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Glad to hear that your appt went well and that the r/e took you seriously. It makes a big difference when the doctor is willing to take the ball and run with it.

I know how you feel about feeling like you're stuck in a rut. My husband and I got married last June. At first our minds were just a little bit open to trying to conceive. We closed on our house in September so we became really open to starting our family and thus officially started trying. I didn't realize how much I really wanted to do this until after the 1st m/c. Since then, I can't stop thinking about it. Before our wedding last year, I never would have guessed that I would be totally taken over by this want/need to start our family.

I too have been trying to do things to distract myself.. change things. Mostly stuff around our house.

Anyways, best of luck with your upcoming tests.
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August 16th, 2006, 02:09 PM
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Sweetie - be careful about the mounting bills. They can get overwhelming. The karyote tests - if not covered under insurance can run $1,500.00 each. I opted for that reason to have tests done slower, over time, in hopes that I may have some tests that I ended up not needing to do (which they are some I didn't end up having to have done). Just a thought....do whatever works for you!
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August 16th, 2006, 03:26 PM
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Thanks for the heads up Beckie. It turns out that OHIP covered everything but $55 for my blood work (which was for the Lupus antibody). So that was great news. I was expecting to pay alot but for once OHIP came through. OHIP is our provincial government health insurance plan. I'm sure most people are aware that in Canada Canadian citizens basically have paid medical benefits. It doesn't cover everything (i.e. dental, perscriptions, private hospital rooms, etc), and many of us has supplementary coverage through work or on our own, but the big stuff is practically covered (i.e. specialist's, doctor's, surgery, hospital stays, having a baby, etc). It's not free coverage though since we pay for this through our taxes (and our taxes take up 18-45% of our income).

I think when all of the testing is done we'll have had to pay around $250 in total. It's worth it to me. If we have to go through IUI it'll be around $300 a cycle (everything included) so everything is doable. I'm so thankful that almost everything is covered. I love being a Canadian!!!!
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August 16th, 2006, 06:44 PM
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I always say I thrive on change that I initiate! LOL Like the restructuring going on at my owrk...not liking it so much. So guess what I've done??? Gone out and applied for new jobs LOL!

you sound in better spirits Nykol, glad to hear that. Stay strong...we will be with you in this journey...every step! take care.
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August 16th, 2006, 09:57 PM
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I am in better spririts Norina, but I'm having a harder time this time with my emotions. This has by far been the most difficult emotionally and physically than the other 2. I've found myself having having more bad days than good days and my emotions are all over the map. I've been cynical and that's not like me. Part of me wishes I could go back to who I used to be, but I'll never be that person.
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August 18th, 2006, 04:34 PM
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Part of me wishes I could go back to who I used to be, but I'll never be that person.[/b]
I think we all feel that way. I'm sorry this time around has been so much harder.
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