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August 30th, 2006, 04:09 AM
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I am in the midst of having my second m/c at the moment and was after some advice. I was 6 weeks when I started to m/c. I have been bleeding heavily for 4 days but I'm worried because my body hasnt expelled any tissue yet. Last time, I m/c at 7 weeks and the tissue came out soon after the heavy bleeding. I have severe back pain every now and then but no tissue. Sorry if this is tmi. I was hoping to hear from other ladies that have been through a similar thing. My last m/c was all over the place. I spotted for 3 weeks then bled for another 6. When did you expel the tissue and how long did your bleeding last?
In some of my other posts ladies suggest that I should push for a d/c or see a specialist. I'm not sure how different our health care system is here (Australia) but I tried desperately for a d/c with both m/c and through every available source but no one would help me. My doctor said that my only option for help was emergency departments (both times). I found my experiences in emergency departments more traumatic than the m/c themselves so I like to avoid them unless its really serious.
My ob that I saw with my daughter said he couldnt help me because he did not confirm the pregnancy. Anyways, I hope that explains why I'm asking you ladies and not a doctor.
Thanks for reading and I am so sorry for everyone else in this forum having to go through loss more than once. I'ts bad enough the first time. Good luck to you all.
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August 30th, 2006, 07:56 AM
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Sweetie - I am soooo sorry this is going rough for you. With my last loss it took me three days to pass hte baby & I was at my wits end - as I had been cramping/bleeding all that time. What I did was walk on the thrid day - just around the house. I tried to keep safety in mind - but I also tried to stay as active as possible, as my cramping seemed to intensify when I was moving around. It was the last thing I felt like doing - but I didn't want a D&C - so I was determined to help my body move along. I would also try some relaxation breathing - try to take deep breaths & relax yourself as much as possible. This is a very very stressful time & although it seems sily to try to relax - it helped me get through it. I would take a deep breath in & tell myself I was breathing in strength & when I breathed out I would tell myself I could feel myself letting go of the baby - so that I would envision it helping my body to relax & le the process unfold. I don't know if it will help you - but it helped me.

Please keep faith that this may still be okay naturally - even though it is so different than your previous experience. Each one of mc's has been a bit different & the last one was by far the most different. You can also ask your Dr about some pills that can be taken to help the progress of the mc. Those were offered to me once, and I chose not to take them, but some ladies have & it does help it move along, it causes your uterus to contract more. There are also herbal things that cause contracting - like raspberry leaf tea - but it seems you have to take quite a bit of it if I remember correctly & I am not certain how much it really helps.

I have been right there hun - I remember how hard it was to go one for days waiting, hurting. I don't wish it on anyone. If there is anything else I can do - feel free to PM me anytime - we can even talk on IM if you want. Sending you much love & hope this is over soon. (((hugs)))
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August 30th, 2006, 08:16 AM
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I'm sorry you're having such a tough time right now. The waiting is the hardest part of natural m/c for me. The Pregnancy Loss board has a subforum of natural m/c experiences. You might go read over there, if you haven't already, and see the variety of things JM women have been through during natural m/c.

I'm very surprised that your ob wouldn't at least have you come in for a check. I'd think he'd want to see if it's truly a m/c or just bleeding during pg, since some women get full blown AF while pg. Could you call him back and say you're not sure whether it's a m/c or not (even if you are sure), but are worried about your pregnancy and want him to check you out? I just hate for you to have to sit it out and hope things progress more quickly.

Please keep us posted. We get attached very quickly and want to make sure you're OK.
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August 30th, 2006, 01:56 PM
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I'm so sorry that things are going this way. I just wanted to share that my last m/c was natural and I was expecting to see tissue or something but I never did. I thought something was wrong and went for weekly HCG blood tests until my levels went to 0. I had heavy bleeding for 4 days (like I was peeing blood when I was on the toilet) and then nothing for a week and then I started to spot again for 3 weeks. I didn't really have any cramps so I was freaked out that something was wrong. I never expelled any mass or tissue like substance. I was a little over 6 weeks as well.

So it's possible that this might be different from your other m/c. Like Becki and Kathryn have suggested though, I would call your doctor and let them know what's going on and your concerns. Hang in there hun...

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August 30th, 2006, 04:34 PM
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I'm really sorry that you are having to go through this again. I didn't have the experience you are having (I saw tissue both times), but I can say that my two mcs were very different from each other. The first was drawn out, I didn't pass the baby until I had already been bleeding for about 10 days, and I bled for about a month total and had lots of cramping. The second I only bled about ten days start to finish, adn I passed the baby after bleeding for four days. That time, the only really bad cramping I had was about an hour right after I passed the baby.
ake care of yourself. Please come back and post here anytime you need to. I'm sorry you are having such a difficult medical situation with your doctors too.
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August 30th, 2006, 07:03 PM
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Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry for your losses, and that the physical aspect of this is so rough for you..

I just wanted to add that with my first natural m/c, I don't remember passing any tissue at all, just very heavy bleeding.. And with my most recent loss, I am pretty sure that I bled for over a week before I passed any tissue..

I'm sorry your doctors aren't being more supportive of you, but please know that we're here. Post when you're feeling up to it and let us know how you're doing.
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