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November 24th, 2008, 05:22 PM
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So, i posted a thread in my DDC. Today I went for my 2nd prenatal exam at the birthcenter. I am a VERY anxious person and the first thing i said when i got there, was all i want is to hear the heart beat. Well, when she tried the doppler, she could not hear it. She got another doppler and still could not hear it. I was about to have a panic attack. She wrote me a script for a viability ultrasound. My friend who was due the day before me had a routine ultrasound friday and the baby had died at 9weeks, so that was in the front of my mind. I called all 5 ultrasound places that my HMO will let me go to and none could see me until December. I flipped out and had a nervous breakdown, so DH and I went to the ER. It was 1pm and after 4 hours there, i got an ultrasound and everything was FABULOUS. So the girls in my DDC were like "yeah, this is why i am not at a midwife" i was like ***? This has happened to my friends at OBs/MDs, so what is the freakin difference? I just do not like how they look down on the midwife. One woman said her husband would never let her see a midwife. ######, my DH and I could not imagine it any other way.

I just needed to vent. My post was not about midwives, but about a scare i had. ugh.
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November 24th, 2008, 07:22 PM
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Hmmm, that's a pretty big leap how it's somehow the fault of the midwife that she couldn't pick up the heartbeat. I'm not sure why someone would even jump to that conclusion and make a comment like that, you have a right to be fustrated!
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November 24th, 2008, 08:25 PM
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I had the same problem in my DDC. I had to come here sooo many times. Im sorry they were like that. I really wish people would get off their high horse.
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November 25th, 2008, 03:26 AM
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I'm so sorry you got those kinds of responses. I understand how you feel about that too. I think you handled it very well. Good for you! At my first appointment with my midwives they found out that I had a bacterial infection and I was telling mys SIL about it. She asked me what caused it and I told her I didn't know and didn't ask, assuming it was random like a yeast infection. She then said "that's why I could have never went to a midwife." I was so confused because it made no sense at all and she has had 3 NCB's by choice!

And at my last appointment they couldn't find the heartbeat of my peanut either. Luckily the birth center I am going to is right across the street from the hospital so she just called over and told them I was coming.

I'm so glad your LO is ok. That must have been so stressful. *HUGS*
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November 25th, 2008, 04:08 AM
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It is more my crappy HMO insurance than anything else that gave me issue getting an ultrasound yesterday. HMOs SUCK!!!!!!!! I called all 5 places i am capitated to and none could see me.

yeah, it is hard for me understand that i am in the minority with NCB and going to a midwife, because i could not imagine it any other way. The care i get from my midwife is so superior to any OB in the area. No OB spends 90 minutes with you on your first appt! What else i love about them is when you check in for your appt, they hand you your entire chart, so you can always go thru it and see what they wrote in it and all your blood tests, etc. Totally awesome.
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November 25th, 2008, 04:38 AM
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Yeah, my midwives hand me my chart too. I love that! They even ask me to weigh myself and write it in the chart. It just feels like I have so much more input and control with the midwives and I love it.
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November 25th, 2008, 07:04 AM
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I am sorry that they had those comments. There are a lot of ignorant people out there. Stay strong in your decision and try not to let other people's comments influence or bother you too much. HUGS!
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November 25th, 2008, 10:17 AM
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I am so sorry that yo had a hard time. It had nothing to do with a midwife and I don't see how they made the correlation. Makes no sense.
Glad you found the heart beat though
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November 25th, 2008, 10:18 AM
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I understand how frustrating that can be. When I hemorrhaged after giving birth to Lochy my Mom had several nasty comments about the midwife and birth center when I talked about my birth to other people. Like I still wouldn't have bled at a hospital! The midwife remained calm and did everything she could to get my bleeding under control and kept me from having to have a hospital transfer!

I understand the no heartbeat scare as well. We did hear it at 11 weeks (after intense searching) and 12 weeks (with no problem) but they couldn't find it at 15 weeks. Two of them (including the one who found it at 12 weeks) searched for close to half an hour and had me changing all kinds of positions and jostling my belly. We all thought he had passed and what I liked about the midwife was that even though it was the end of the day she made the hospital across the road take me right then instead of having me wait til the next day. Thankfully everything was fine but he was moving around so much even the u/s tech had a hard time isolating his heartbeat!

The midwives and the specialized care are what I loved most about my prenatal care and delivery at The Birth Center. They are just so awesome! Women who don't go to a midwife don't know what they're missing.
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November 25th, 2008, 11:50 AM
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Thanks for your post, Jenn, if i remember correctly, you were at the same place as me. I was really impressed with how equipped they are at the Birth Center for things like hemmoraging. And so close to the hospital.
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November 25th, 2008, 03:35 PM
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Yeah, my midwives hand me my chart too. I love that! They even ask me to weigh myself and write it in the chart. It just feels like I have so much more input and control with the midwives and I love it.[/b]
I love that! I agree, the care I recieve from my midwives I would consider far better than the care from any OB I have seen. I love being given a choice in what tests I take or what decisions are made in my care. I'm not just told what to do or what I should do.
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November 25th, 2008, 06:47 PM
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I had a lot of frustration with my DDC as well. At one point I had to take a break for a few weeks. But I have to say I love those ladies and as time went on and we had our babies, my "unusual" ways has become more accepted.

We are always here for you!!
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November 25th, 2008, 09:40 PM
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I am sorry they were acting that way in your DDC. I think most people are just clueless when it comes to anything other than a hospital and OB.

FYI... I have a home doppler and a trick to picking up the HB early (I could hear mine at 7ish weeks both times I had a viable pregnancy) and easily is to have a full bladder. It will raise the uterus up above the pubic bone so you can find the baby easier
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November 25th, 2008, 09:55 PM
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Honestly, if there actually was no heartbeat picked up by midwife or OB, there is really nothing you can do about it and it is of no fault to the midwife or OB. It's not like an OB can suddenly resuscitate an unborn child that early in gestation and a midwife can't.
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