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December 20th, 2008, 01:20 PM
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We've been co-sleeping for about two weeks now but Sylas is only sleeping for about an hour at a time at night. I'll feed him, burp him, and the rock him or pat his back but when it's time to lay back down he cries again. We go through this cycle every night and I've only been sleeping about three hours a night. He loves to fall asleep on the boob and I can't take him off because he will cry, but then I can't fall asleep because I'm so worried about him suffocating. DH has gone out to buy a baby monitor and he said no more co-sleeping. I can't stand the thought of my two week old baby crying all night alone in another room. I'm totally exhausted and desperate for sleep but I don't know what to do. During the day he is a perfect little angel and he will sleep for four hours at a time! Night time is just horrible. How did you all handle your sleeping situation- and what is a good age to make then sleep in the crib??? HELP!
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December 20th, 2008, 01:49 PM
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well honey, I personally got much more sleep co-sleeping, but it's not for everyone. Keep in mind that mommies have instinct- you will not roll over and crush him. If you can get really comfy lying down nursing, try that. I always wedge a pillow up against my back, that really helps. And you can put something along his back so he doesn't roll onto his back.

We always used to put a pillow between John and Cadie so he wouldn't roll over on her. Just dress really warm and only keep a light blanket on you so that doesn't cover him. There is so much propaganda against co-sleeping and scare tactics against it. As long as you are responsible and know what responsible co-sleeping is, you will be fine.

Just remember that you aren't going to spoil him or get him used to using you as a paci, or any of those things people say. He's only a few weeks old, he needs to nurse a lot. Unless you really can't get any sleep with him, I wouldn't discourage http://www.justmommies.com/boards/style_im...k-button.pngthe nursing. Right now his wants and his needs are one in the same.

Here is what Dr Sears says about cosleeping

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are you napping when he naps during the day?

I remember the first few weeks Cadie slept in her bouncy chair at night. Then we started having her sleep in the bed with us in a little thing called the "safe and secure cosleeper" and then we bought the arms reach co-sleeper. Now she sleeps right in the bed with us.

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December 20th, 2008, 02:43 PM
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it seems he has days and nights confused. It happens to many many babies. I would just suggest, keeping things very dark and quiet in your room at night. During the day, try to keep him awake as much as you can. He is still a newborn so he will still sleep most of it anyways. It might take awhile, but really thats all you can do. Good luck and try to get some sleep
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December 20th, 2008, 03:59 PM
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I was thinking of that too, this is very common. When we are pregnant, our babies spend most of our awake time asleep, because they are rocked to sleep from our motion. And when we are asleep, they are awake. So this is very common with newborns.

Are you swaddling him at night? That is super helpful for a lot of babies.
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December 20th, 2008, 05:21 PM
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what about a bassinet beside your bed? that way he's not in another room but also not in your bed if that's not working for you...
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December 20th, 2008, 05:22 PM
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Honestly sometimes those first few weeks are hard no matter what you try. Are you sleeping during the day with him? Dont worry about getting anything done around the house. Just sleep as much as you can during the day and night. If you put him in his crib he will just wake up and cry there too and then you will be walking across the house to get him. I would say try and keep him up more during the day too. After the first month of so they settle into more of a groove. Hugs momma. I hope you get some rest soon.
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December 20th, 2008, 08:23 PM
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I'm right there with you Brittany. I have been trying to keep him awake today which is hard (on me and him since I'm going on very little sleep and no naps) but Brayden's days and nights are totally swapped as well. I keep it dark and quiet in our room (I use a nightlight to change him) and bought one of those relaxing noise machines. None of it helps. DH is fed up with cosleeping as well but I refuse to have him out of the room at this age. We have one of those "safe and secure cosleeper" things in the bed, I try to put him in there as much as possible, but for the most part he only sleeps on me. DH is too paranoid about rolling over to hold him at night and keeps telling me I shouldn't do it either. I hope these guys sort themselves out soon so we can get some rest.
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December 21st, 2008, 11:42 AM
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I agree with everyone else's advice and hope it gets better for you soon. A ton of babies are like this during the first few weeks so it's completely normal. It doesn't make it any easier but hang in there. It does get easier, hun. I definitely wouldn't stop nursing him at this age. Right now he just knows that your milk and having you close comforts him and I'd say if that's what he needs right now then try to get sleep as every time he sleeps. I know how hard it is. *HUGS*
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December 21st, 2008, 06:43 PM
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If you want some sleep advice, seriously check out the AP board. You will be bombarded with tips, ideas & encouragement!!! ***HUGS***
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December 22nd, 2008, 08:25 AM
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hopefully we haven't heard back because you are sleeping! HUGS.
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December 22nd, 2008, 02:02 PM
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LOL- Cheryl your funny. We have a bassinet by the bed but he hates it. Last night was the first night he slept in it- but the thing is he only sleeps for an hour then starts making a ton of grunting and snoring noises and both DH and I can't sleep through it. It's like he is fighting it. He has been awake more than usual today, possibly because I had a small cup of coffee (I know BAD mama). I try to sleep during the day but DH is working from home and I just can't fall asleep. I know it will get better. Thanks for the advice ladies- I'm off to try to get a nap. Wish me luck!
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December 22nd, 2008, 02:55 PM
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Looking back I remember Bryson would only sleep on me for the whole first month. He would simply not sleep on the bed at all during the night so we just went with it. Not the easiest or most comfortable sleeping position but it worked for a while anyway. I also remember that since DH took the first 6 weeks off that we were up every night until like 3:00 a.m. when it seemed B was finally ready for bed himself then we'd get to sleep off and on until around 11:00 a.m. That was his schedule for the first month or so. I hope you were able to get a nap! *HUGS*
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December 24th, 2008, 09:36 PM
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Lily pretty much fell asleep nursing and laying on me for the first month or so. I would nurse her in football hold, with me almost lying down flat on my back though, I just had one pillow behind me. That way I could fall asleep and she was able to turn her head easily when she was done nursing.

DH had to go back after a week off when she was born and he ended up sleeping in the guest room for a few weeks. He just couldn't deal with her waking up so often and all her noise. Now she's better and sleeps in her bassinet, but we're going to move her to her crib soon I think. She actually seems to sleep better in her own room when she naps
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December 29th, 2008, 07:10 AM
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everyone else gave great advice. as your son gets older and he straightens out his nights and days this will fix itself. the good news is he is helping you bring in a bountiful milk supply for him!

i just wanted to add, have you thought about getting a cosleeper? he will still be in arms reach but it helps the baby feel like they are still in bed with you. it will also help prevent him from getting disturbed by you and dh, i know my dd is a restless sleeper and my movement at night would wake her up. i plan on getting this one for my next baby http://www.toysrus.com/product/index...ductId=2649309
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