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  #1  
January 5th, 2009, 07:01 PM
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So I had my first big discussion in ym DDC. I sure hope I did ok, but I was pretty fired up and really may have been a little harsh, not mean not name calling but definitely not nice.


Sigh, I was hoping it would go as nicely as my last one did. I was able to ignore most of the stuff, but not this time.
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January 5th, 2009, 07:43 PM
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Ugh....I'm sorry. I almost made a not so nice post in TTC yesterday. That was actually what led to me realizing it was time to take a break from at least part of JM. I'm sorry that your DDC isn't so peaceful. Hopefully it gets better.
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January 5th, 2009, 07:56 PM
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Are you causing trouble Meghan??? I had to leave our DDC and come here several times....
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January 5th, 2009, 08:08 PM
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I don't think it was trouble, but I am not just going to roll over and let things roll off my back this time. I did that during my last pregnancy and there are some women that are not happy with the way they gave birth to their child. Main;y because they were un-informed. So I feel bad, I knew the things to say and to talk about to get people thinking and I didn't do it.

I mostly feel bad for my co-worker. I met her when she was pregnant with her DD. She was open to tlaking about birth, but I didn't know her well, and who wants to listen to a crazy lady rant about birth? Well, she ended up with a c-section. The baby was transverse, they tried NOTHING. They 'let' her labor for 12 hours and then they sectioned her. Well, the doc freaked out and couldn't get the baby out fast enough. Mind you the baby was NOT in distress at ALL. So instead of extending the horizontal incision, the doctor cut in a "T" towards the fundus. So she is all but 'doomed' to a repeat c-section if she wants to give birth in NJ where we live. She is actually trying to work out the logistics of going to New Mexico where there is a doctor who respects her wishes, he is against them, but he will not force a surgical birth on her.

So I feel bad that I didn't warn her. That she didn't know ahed of time the HORRIBLE birth climate in this state and that doctors do NOT know everything. We are medical professionals, so we tend to trust our peers, you know?

So, now I am a ranting lunatic...heehee


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January 5th, 2009, 08:11 PM
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oh no. I am sure things will pass over. i do know your pain though. I tend to have a hard time keeping my mouth shut on vaccines and breastfeeding. (not anti vax either so go figure)
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January 5th, 2009, 08:16 PM
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ARRRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!! That gets under my skin! I like your response!
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January 5th, 2009, 08:18 PM
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I'm sorry the drama has started over there. That's the thing with DDC's, they can be wonderful supportive places, but they they can also get pretty heated because there are so many different types of people with different ideals. Not to mention everyone on them have raging hormones! I've seen them get out of hand so many times. I hope it just blows over for you.
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January 5th, 2009, 08:26 PM
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well maybe a couple of us from here will join you over there that will help! I know it can be really frustrating
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January 5th, 2009, 08:41 PM
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I've made some great friends in my DDC but the number of moms who are "planning" their birth really irks me!! It's Jan 5th and about 40 babies have been born already. That means the majority were early. Some just came early but many were induced or c-section! I'm still preggo and I was one of the earliest EDDs. I really am seeing that those mommies who want natural birth are just a special kind of woman! I keep posting my natural stuff because I'm hoping to plant seeds. With my 1st, I had the total med. intervention. I was induced with an epi prior to my EDD. It wasn't until the next one that I looked for a better way. Maybe something you say now will help a mom in the future!

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January 5th, 2009, 09:28 PM
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Yay!! Kelli I would love for you to join me!!!!

I agree though, I have to let some of it go, but I won't stop posting my message. If people don't like it they can ignore me or something..lol
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January 6th, 2009, 07:07 AM
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I'm curious as to what was said now. I'm going to go try to find it, lol.
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January 6th, 2009, 07:12 AM
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I am sorry you went thru that frustration. I have had a hard time keeping my trap shut lately. There was a whole thread in our DDC about scheduling inductions and c sections. I was SHOCKED and HORRIFIED by the number of women scheduling inductions for their convenience or to ensure one doc in the practice delivered their baby. ***??????? It really angered me to no avail. I kept typing responses and luckily never hitting "add reply" .

There have been a lot of anti-midwife comments on our DDC board as well and it is so hard for me to just take it. I am a highly educated person and a health care provider and it saddens me that not everyone thinks it is necessary to educate themselves and explore all their options. Everyone wants the easy route. The easy route may not truly be the easiest or the best, and that is what people never think about.
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January 6th, 2009, 07:16 AM
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Just remember, try to be non preachy. I am one of the more unconventional ladies in my PR (and when we were a DDC) and I am VERY careful how I word things. There are a few other ladies that basically say the same ideas I do, but in a very blunt and direct way. It really rubs people the wrong way. Yet they love me, and I never get into arguments with people. I know it is a great tactic and they have told me so many times. I post "natural living tips" all the time and try to help people see things differently. But my approach is the key to getting them to see where I am coming from.

Not saying you are being any certain way, I just know how these things can be. DDC's are tough sometimes.
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January 6th, 2009, 07:33 AM
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grrr! I want to read it!

I'm possibly not even going to really join a DDC on here, it's too blech sometimes! I probably will be much more active on my other forums DDC
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January 6th, 2009, 08:59 AM
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Well, there is something about 'thoughts on inductions', something about those.
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January 6th, 2009, 09:21 AM
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I read the entire thread and was going to post, but you have said it all! I think the main point is that people need to be informed of all the risk. Many women think they are informed, but all they are informed about is what their doctors tell them. I wish more women researched the in's and out's of one of the biggest events in their lives!
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January 6th, 2009, 10:18 AM
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I just read the whole thread too and after writing down my thoughts to put in a reply I also found that you said many of the things I was thinking so I'm just leaving it at that. I think a lot of the women in your DDC actually agree with you or are willing to at least listen based on the replies to the thread. I agree that it's all about being informed. If a mother actually knows all the risks and still wants to be induced and other things then that is her right to choose. It is not, however, her OB's/midwife's right to choose. I just don't think most women know that.
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January 7th, 2009, 06:26 AM
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Sorry, DDCs are really hard to be apart of for me. I check on mine on a regular basis and post about 2 posts a day, but thats it. I 'try' to steer clear of headings that get me fired up *sigh*

It's better to surround myself with positive atmosphere (like-minded) than other.
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January 7th, 2009, 09:07 AM
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Jackie, I took that approach last time and sort of regret it now. I feel that if I had said more, or been like I am this time some of the women may have made different choices in their birth. So this time around I am taking a different approach. I am blessed that there seems to be women who know where I am coming from, so I won't be going it alone, you know?
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