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January 15th, 2009, 07:31 AM
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I co-moderate on a running forum and a poster just posted this:

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Wed will be my last day at work for a while! baby is going to be induced on Thursday (the 22nd)!!!

Both of my docs are concerned that he will be too large for me to deliver safely if he goes beyond 39 weeks. I'll have another ultrasound next Wednesday to check size. If he's over 9lbs, we're scheduling a c-section. (which is what I wanted to begin with...)

He's estimated to be about 8.5 lbs right now, so this should be interesting.

In related news, my doc gave me enough ambien to get me through to the induction. I got to sleep last night! I was so excited!

(Please do not flame me regarding being induced or wanting a c-section. After the road it took to get here, all I care about is that he arrives safely, and that I am ok to care for him.)[/b]

ACK!!!!!!!! ARE YOU ##### SERIOUS?!?!?!?? AFTER THE ROAD (multiple miscarriages) YOU TOOK TO GET HERE, YOU ARE GOING TO GO THRU MAJOR SURGERY AND MAXIMUM INTERVENTION BECAUSE YOUR BABY "MAY" BE 9 POUNDS??????? How does that do your baby any good?


She is a big woman, big, hefty, and quite broad, there is no reason she cannot birth a 9lb baby. And we all know that these estimates are usually wrong and usually on the high side. I did not respond, cause i know it would not be nice, and as a moderator, i have to be on my best behavior So, I came here to make an example of what is wrong with maternal/fetal care in our country!

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January 15th, 2009, 07:55 AM
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I'm honestly at a loss...she just doesn't make sense! She is obviously getting all of her information from moronic doctors! lol Again proof that people put too much trust is most doctors. I say most because some really are wonderful! If I could access the head banging against the wall icon from my work computer, there would be a few of those in this post! lol
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January 15th, 2009, 07:55 AM
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I'm going to be very interested to see just how big her baby is. I suppose that my 115 pound body should have never been able to deliver my 9 lb 10 oz son then.....
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January 15th, 2009, 08:00 AM
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before she got pregnant, i would estimate that she was about 5'6" and close to 200lbs and pretty broad, and ran occasionally, so she has some fitness. There is no physical reason she could not birth a 9-10lb baby. I think it is ridiculous that she thinks this is the best bet for her baby!!! That is the part that blows my mind.

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January 15th, 2009, 08:21 AM
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Wow, I am 5'5" and close to 200 pounds. I delivered a 9 lb 13.9 ounce baby vaginally. I am not broad either, I have more pf a 'manly' shape not huge hips, etc.

My mom who was very tiny weight wise, she was only about 90 pounds when she got pregnant with my oldest brother had my younger brother vaginally. She is 5'6", and was not a hige fitness person or anything. He weighed 10 lb 9 oz, not from gestational diabetes, I think his head was 16 inches!!! And his shoulders were broad, he looked like a mini football player!

Ok, I just don't understand people.
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January 15th, 2009, 09:09 AM
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Gosh, she acts like she's going to pop out a 13 pounder or something!
Yeah, I would've just kept to myself too.
And AMBIEN during pregnancny? Wow.
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January 15th, 2009, 09:33 AM
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I love you gals

And you prevented me from flaming her
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January 15th, 2009, 09:39 AM
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I'm not sure why some people have the attitude that a c-section is safer. I've heard that argument before from someone who had a difficult time conceiving (ended up with IVF). Is it because labor is so unpredictable that a c-section gives the illusion of complete control? Is the fear of labor that pervasive in our society that it's viewed as a gamble?

Just out of curiosity, I looked up Ambien and found this: link

I'm not sure why some people have the attitude that a c-section is safer. I've heard that argument before from someone who had a difficult time conceiving (ended up with IVF). Is it because labor is so unpredictable that a c-section gives the illusion of complete control? Is the fear of labor that pervasive in our society that it's viewed as a gamble?

Just out of curiosity, I looked up Ambien and found this: link
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January 15th, 2009, 10:04 AM
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How sad! Good that you didn't respond. By her pre-defensive stand, she obviously knows there are risks and objections to her choices. And she simply doesn't care. It's unfortunate after many losses that you wouldn't then act with the utmost care for this baby. But maybe she is just so scared of being pregnant, maybe still worrying about losing the baby, that she just wants it over with and baby in her arms.
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January 15th, 2009, 11:15 AM
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How sad! Good that you didn't respond. By her pre-defensive stand, she obviously knows there are risks and objections to her choices. And she simply doesn't care. It's unfortunate after many losses that you wouldn't then act with the utmost care for this baby. But maybe she is just so scared of being pregnant, maybe still worrying about losing the baby, that she just wants it over with and baby in her arms.[/b]

I think that's it...and whoever said the control issue....it sounds like a for sure control issue. She wants to totally trust doctors and give them maximum control over her body and she believes that in doing so, it will get her baby here safer and faster.
Good for you for keeping your tounge quiet...it would have been hard!
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January 15th, 2009, 11:50 AM
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She does realize that if they mangle the c/s she could end up having an even harder time getting pg next time due to scar tissue, right? Just checking.
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January 16th, 2009, 01:36 PM
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Holy crap batman....

I have nothing further to add that doesnt include profanity and rudeness....
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i also have nothing to add but this that hasn't already been said.
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January 17th, 2009, 08:49 AM
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She obviously knows she wrong, or she wouldn't have put her little justification disclaimer in there...And no, there is absolutely No reason she shouldn't be able to birth that baby on her own....And people think we're the weird ones
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January 17th, 2009, 09:26 AM
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sigh. . that's a shame , She most likely will get the c-section she wanted in the beginning
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January 18th, 2009, 11:43 AM
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UPDATE!

No, she did not have her baby yet, but she made a post today that the body is not equipped to birth a baby over 8.5 lbs and that anything over is putting the baby at serious risk and how dare you put your baby at such a risk.

i do not wish harm on this woman, but i hope she "enjoys" her c-section that i am sure she will have and realizes it is not the easy way out

OKAY!

I just had a long discussion with my good IRL friend who is on that forum with me. She thinks the woman meant that SHE cannot birth a baby over 8.5lbs, but made it sound like any woman could not. SHe has never posted any medical reasons why she would need a c-section and had previously posted that her dr wanted to induce her (for a vaginal birth). She is a big gal and has no known health problems besides being overweight. I think as the time came close, she got nervous and does not want to go thru childbirth. fun fun.
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January 19th, 2009, 12:49 PM
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My DR and I are talking about an induction because baby already measures 2 weeks ahead and DH's boss is being a pain and telling him that he won't be able to leave work early he just has to take days off if he thinks I'm going to go into labor....but I don't plan on getting a c section...I'm still bound and determined to deliver this baby pain med free!
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January 21st, 2009, 04:03 AM
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Well, she had her baby. By C-section (SHOCKER) Monday and it was only 8 lbs 4oz. I have no other details. She was scheduled to be induced today, so not sure what the story is and I doubt I will get it, because she knows that she and i have different views, cause i posted something about NCB in a conversation (not directed to her) and she got VERY defensive.
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