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Because I almost couldn't any longer!
DH's Grandma and Aunt stopped in to see BE and have dinner with us last night as they were traveling through the area (they live over 2 hours away).
Somehow we started talking about natural childbirth, and Vaginal deliveries vs c-sections (don't ask me how...I don't really know).
Well apparently Grandma had c-sections with ALL three of her children, without ever being given the opportunity to try naturally, because "she was too small" or at least that's what the Dr's had her TOTALLY convinced of! After her first, they only confirmed it in her mind by telling her that "Her body was entirely too small, and c-sections were the ONLY way! She never would have made it through a vaginal delivery, and not to let anyone try and tell her different!". Now granted the woman is not 5 feet tall, but her husband wasn't a large man either! All of her babies were within the 6lb range...So tell me...Why was it so impossible that she wasn't even given the chance!?!
I guess her sister (DH's Great Aunt) tried for a vaginal delivery, and ended up with a c-section...But both of Grandma's daughters, and her niece (non of which are any bigger in frame) all had successful vaginal deliveries!
I'm not saying that there aren't woman out there that are too small, and do need help...But at least let them try!
DH's Grandma isn't one to argue with, because she's always right! Hence the reason I just sat there biting my tongue as hard as could, trying not to say something I shouldn't!
I don't know why this bothered me as much as it did...maybe because I feel bad for her, and don't think she was treated right! Anyway...sorry for the ramble.
And back then they trusted doctors as God even more than is done today. She might defend it to the death because it could be a little painful to think that she missed out on a real (only meaning vaginal) birth.
well I feel bad for her as well. You let her know, next time that my grandma was only 4'10" and about 85 pounds (of course she was even smaller in old age) she delievered all 3 of her children vaginally. Not sure about naturally or not. My grandpa was at least 6 foot not sure exactly how tall he was. The shortest of the 3 is now my dad at 6'1"
It depends on who the person is that I am talking to whether it is hard for me to bite my tongue or not. It's really hard for me to bite my tongue with my mother-in-law but much easier for me to bite my tongue with my sister (both had c-sections and think I'm crazy for having a NCB and planning a home birth for this one).
I might have said something like "well thank goodness I am so big" or something equally as wise. But who knows, sometimes I am better at keeping my mouth shut than others. Plus it's not your grandmother, it's your husband's so that is different too.