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  #1  
May 1st, 2009, 01:28 PM
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Because I almost couldn't any longer!
DH's Grandma and Aunt stopped in to see BE and have dinner with us last night as they were traveling through the area (they live over 2 hours away).
Somehow we started talking about natural childbirth, and Vaginal deliveries vs c-sections (don't ask me how...I don't really know).
Well apparently Grandma had c-sections with ALL three of her children, without ever being given the opportunity to try naturally, because "she was too small" or at least that's what the Dr's had her TOTALLY convinced of! After her first, they only confirmed it in her mind by telling her that "Her body was entirely too small, and c-sections were the ONLY way! She never would have made it through a vaginal delivery, and not to let anyone try and tell her different!". Now granted the woman is not 5 feet tall, but her husband wasn't a large man either! All of her babies were within the 6lb range...So tell me...Why was it so impossible that she wasn't even given the chance!?!
I guess her sister (DH's Great Aunt) tried for a vaginal delivery, and ended up with a c-section...But both of Grandma's daughters, and her niece (non of which are any bigger in frame) all had successful vaginal deliveries!
I'm not saying that there aren't woman out there that are too small, and do need help...But at least let them try!
DH's Grandma isn't one to argue with, because she's always right! Hence the reason I just sat there biting my tongue as hard as could, trying not to say something I shouldn't!

I don't know why this bothered me as much as it did...maybe because I feel bad for her, and don't think she was treated right! Anyway...sorry for the ramble.
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May 1st, 2009, 01:37 PM
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And back then they trusted doctors as God even more than is done today. She might defend it to the death because it could be a little painful to think that she missed out on a real (only meaning vaginal) birth.
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May 1st, 2009, 01:47 PM
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I think you hit the nail on the head! She was very defensive!(and I didn't even say anything) I do feel bad for her...
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May 1st, 2009, 02:07 PM
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It is very very very hard for me, but i do it.
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May 1st, 2009, 02:11 PM
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well I feel bad for her as well. You let her know, next time that my grandma was only 4'10" and about 85 pounds (of course she was even smaller in old age) she delievered all 3 of her children vaginally. Not sure about naturally or not. My grandpa was at least 6 foot not sure exactly how tall he was. The shortest of the 3 is now my dad at 6'1"
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May 1st, 2009, 03:10 PM
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It depends on who the person is that I am talking to whether it is hard for me to bite my tongue or not. It's really hard for me to bite my tongue with my mother-in-law but much easier for me to bite my tongue with my sister (both had c-sections and think I'm crazy for having a NCB and planning a home birth for this one).
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May 1st, 2009, 03:41 PM
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I feel bad for those that never even get the chance. I saw a little of that in my PR and sadly, those women didn't even care
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May 1st, 2009, 06:15 PM
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sorry i only wanted to comment that bryce was born on my moms bday! awwww
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May 1st, 2009, 06:33 PM
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I don't usually have a hard time biting my tongue. Its when people start in on MY choice on how I birth my children that I can't keep quiet.

I have to say though, my MIL is a small person--not much over 5 feet and was rail thin when she had her kids. They were both 2 weeks past their EDDs and dh was over 9lbs and she never had a section.
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May 1st, 2009, 07:07 PM
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I feel bad for those that never even get the chance. I saw a little of that in my PR and sadly, those women didn't even care
I agree

My mom was told that her hips were too small to deliver me...the doctors let her try, and she ended up with an emergency c-section
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May 2nd, 2009, 05:08 PM
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Lately its been a lot harder for me to bite my tongue. But thats cause Im grouchy. LOL.
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May 2nd, 2009, 06:48 PM
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A few of my 'friends' are pregnant. One of them said 'I'd rather a c section than go through the pain of delivery"..................!???!?!?! I didn't hold back. She isn't talking to me now lol.
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May 3rd, 2009, 10:40 AM
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I might have said something like "well thank goodness I am so big" or something equally as wise. But who knows, sometimes I am better at keeping my mouth shut than others. Plus it's not your grandmother, it's your husband's so that is different too.
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May 3rd, 2009, 06:58 PM
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I think telling women their babies are 'too big' is more frustrating to me than hearing women be told they're 'too small,' but I'm not sure yet.. =\
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