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December 14th, 2009, 06:39 PM
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I need to quit having mommy guilt...

I broke down and gave Noelle a pacifier today...

I am freaking out because...
1. the pedi told us to wait until a month old
2. I am afraid she won't want to latch on for BFing...


I have been BFing Noelle still and quite often and she has also be receiving a bottle of pumped breast milk so DH can feed her and she still latches on fine... do you think she will still want to latch on now that she had the paci??

She is almost 3 weeks and tonight I gave her the pacifier and she only had it in her mouth for about 5 mins then fell asleep... I gave her the paci because all she seemed to want to do is suckle and to be honest my nipples are raw!!!!
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December 14th, 2009, 08:33 PM
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don't feel like you are letting her down at ALL!! Some babies just have a stronger need to suck. All three of mine have been like that. Courtney to the point where she would overeat and throw up. She's nursing well and at almost 3 weeks old she should be just fine! I generally have introduced a pacifier around 1.5-2 weeks old and they've had no problems
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December 14th, 2009, 08:54 PM
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I breastfed my son for 12 months and we used a binky from day 1, if I recall. We'll likely do the same thing with my daughter. I don't think it's a big deal at all, give yourself a break!!
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December 14th, 2009, 09:54 PM
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Don't worry about it. I gave my DD1 a binkey around 4 weeks old because she was having one of those nights. Nothing would make her happy. Binkey got us both some sleep. It never caused us any problems. (She didn't even latch until she was 6 weeks old, I was pumping and feeding w/ a bottle..) I was going to wait and see with DD2 but she spent her first four days in the NICU so I consented her first night for them to give her one to make her more comfortable. No problems with her either. Do what you need to do to keep yourself sane and try not to worry too much, you're doing a great job!
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December 15th, 2009, 05:04 AM
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don't worry about it. you are doing fine. have you talked to your midwife or dr to discuss your emotions? maybe it is some PPD going on for you.

DD never took a pacifier, we tried EIGHT different ones, LOL.
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December 15th, 2009, 05:41 AM
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I gave Cadie a binkie at about 2 weeks, but she never was overly crazy about it. If anything maybe back off the bottle and go to every other day if you're really worried. Just don't offer the binkie too often for a few more weeks. But the choice is yours.

Personally Im against pedi's giving parenting advice. It sounds like you're doing great. Just trust your instincts!
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December 15th, 2009, 07:02 AM
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I agree- trust your instincts! I've had two paci babies and they never had any trouble nursing.
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December 15th, 2009, 07:18 AM
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My Little Man was using me as a pacifier in the beginning, so I gave him a pacifier at about three days old and he still likes to use it often. He is a champion at breastfeeding, so there was no harm done from using pacifiers. Sucking a pacifier makes him happier, so although I had planned on not giving him one, I am not regretful of having done so. Sometimes our little ones have their own needs and as Mommies, we have to change up the plan and compromise for what works best for our babies. Maybe Noelle just needs that pacifier and she'll be happier with it. Don't worry, Mama. You're doing your best and you're doing a fine job.
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December 15th, 2009, 07:43 AM
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From my experience, pacifiers are less likely to cause problems than bottles. They don't associate a pacifier with food, a bottle they can though. I know there are some who warn that a pacifier can cause nipple confusion, but I've never heard of it happening, especially with a baby who is already a few weeks old.

Both of my girls have used a pacifier at some point. Abby got one from a few days old until she was about 3 months when she stopped taking it. Anna was never a fan, but she took it occasionally until she was about 6-7 months old. Neither one has ever had a problem latching on.
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December 15th, 2009, 08:35 AM
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"Sometimes our little ones have their own needs and as Mommies, we have to change up the plan and compromise for what works best for our babies. Maybe Noelle just needs that pacifier and she'll be happier with it. Don't worry, Mama. You're doing your best and you're doing a fine job"

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December 15th, 2009, 10:06 AM
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I guess I am just too hard myself...

Yes I am a control freak and if things don't go to plan then I kinda feel derailed...

I just want the best for my daughter... And I just want to be able to have her breastfeed...

Thanks ladies I am more at ease... I have just read numerous things and started freaking out because they talk about nipple confusions...

And the past three days she has barfed up pretty much anything I feed her so I think she is over eating just to suckle at the breast because if I or DH feed her from a bottle she doesn't throw up anything...

I am more at ease ladies... Thank you so much!
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December 15th, 2009, 10:24 AM
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It is okay - you are doing great. I gave DS#2 a pacifier at 3 weeks old and it did not impact our nursing at all.
Now he's 18 months old and if I could just get him to give it up - but that is another story!
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December 16th, 2009, 06:21 AM
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We also used a paci from day one and she did fine.
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December 16th, 2009, 11:38 AM
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December 16th, 2009, 03:37 PM
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I breastfed my son for 12 months and we used a binky from day 1, if I recall. We'll likely do the same thing with my daughter. I don't think it's a big deal at all, give yourself a break!!
Ditto! All 3 of my kids had it from day 1 and never had any issues. Only issue I had was with Oliver and it was b/c he was tongue-tied.... once that was clipped, all was fine. I found the paci to actually help when he was tongue-tied.
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December 16th, 2009, 05:12 PM
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Well the past couple of days Noelle has been fussy and even the paci wasn't helping her suckling urge...

Sooooo.... She wanted the breast... I guess it is a good thing that she actually prefers the breast to the paci and bottle... DH was having a darn time trying to get her to take a bottle today but she latched on like a champ...

I am relieved to know she prefers the boobie...
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December 16th, 2009, 05:37 PM
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She sounds like Brylie and it ended up being silent reflux! Try taking her to a chiropractor - they fixed the constant nursing AND the spitting up! They don't adjust baby's like they do adults - they just do some massage on their c-spine, head, and lumbar spine
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December 17th, 2009, 12:47 PM
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My little man is a paci-aholic and breastfeeds like a champ, I gave him a paci the day after he was born because he had, and still has, such a strong suck. I don't see anything wrong with pacis if it comforts a baby.
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December 17th, 2009, 04:42 PM
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Glad all is well with you mama! And I agree with a PP- pedi's are not qualified to give parenting advice for the most part!!!!!
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December 17th, 2009, 08:22 PM
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don't feel like you are letting her down at ALL!! Some babies just have a stronger need to suck. All three of mine have been like that. Courtney to the point where she would overeat and throw up.
Same here!...We ended up giving BE a paci the day after he was born! He just wanted to suck! and we never had any issues with BF!

You have to do what's best for you and your baby(as only you know what's best!)...if you feel she needs it, then I'm sure she will be fine!
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