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February 4th, 2010, 09:24 PM
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I'll try to make my very long story short, but I do need your help ladies.
My name is Monica, I'm 27weeks 6 days pregnant with my second child. This is our daugher.

My first I suffered from moderate-severe Hyperemesis Gravidarum, (excessive puking and weightloss during pregnancy) and went into labor with him the day before his due date. My intentions were on a natural delievery.

It went kind of like this.

Aug 25th, 9 am Doc stripps membranes at office. DING DING DING contractions.

Aug 25th, 5 pm I go to the hopistal for the contractions.

Aug 25th, Around 9 pm they break my waters. - no pitocin thank goodness.

Aug 26th *DUEDATE*, around 2 am, the continuous "Are you sure you dont want an epidrual" "Maybe you should get an epidural" from my mother, and from the staff finally bullied me into my epidural. They came, they did the epidural, they left.

15 minutes later. "I need to push....John....John I need to push..." was all I could say. Then the room was a mess, and I was pushing, and two pushes later, here he was. 3:09 am No problems for him, a minor tear for me. But my goal, dreams, shattered. I didnt make it. I was 15-30 minutes away from making it on my own.

I would KILL for a home birth but the doing it at home is not a possibility. However, I need advice, suggestions, things to read and research, anything I can push in my moms face, things to help her understand how I need her to help me, and things to help me understand how to get what I WANT out of labor.

I can still have my natural childbirth...in a hospital right? Is this obtainable? Please ladies, I need your help.
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February 5th, 2010, 04:50 AM
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You should have her read the Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth by Henci Goer. It discusses the risks of interventions and is really upfront about them. Definitely it is possible to have NCB in a hospital. Have you discussed it with your OB? I would make it clear the minute you get to the hospital that these are your wishes. Also having your family support you will help. One last thought, is to labor at home as long as you can.
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February 5th, 2010, 05:34 AM
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I would suggest not allowing your mother in teh delivery room. If she isn't there to push it on you, your husabnd may be more liely to let you do what you need to do. Obviously you CAN do it, you basically did it last time!
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February 5th, 2010, 05:54 AM
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yes, you can have a natural delivery in a hospital - but it depends on the hospital in how supportive they will be. You can be totally clear right from the moment you get there that you DO NOT want to be offered any meds. At all. Some hospitals are better at respecting this than others. You can always change providers and hospitals to something more friendly for your needs. I did!

When reading your post it also crossed my mind to have mom sit this birth out. If she is not going to be able to support her how YOU need her to, then she is just hindering you, not helping. Sit her down and talk to her honestly, and see what she says. You need people there to respect your wishes.

They got you in transition last time, when almost every woman doubts she can do it, that is the nature of transition.

we have lots of good info in our subforum you can check out. I also suggest the Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth, and also Ina May's Guide to Childbirth by Ina May Gaskin.

You could consider a doula instead of your mom as well.
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February 5th, 2010, 06:29 AM
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I would suggest not allowing your mother in teh delivery room. If she isn't there to push it on you, your husabnd may be more liely to let you do what you need to do. Obviously you CAN do it, you basically did it last time!
That was the first thing to come to my mind too. This is YOUR birth, your birth experience, and you are not obligated to have anyone there. If she wants to "support" you then she needs to fully support your decisions. I know it may be hard to tell your mother that, but I had to do the same thing with the birth of my last daughter. I chose to use a birth center and midwives and my mom kept bringing up these horror stories and worst-case scenarios of what could go wrong. I finally told her "If you can't support this and stop questioning my decisions, then I do not want you there." She ended up being there, supportive and it really opened her eyes to what childbirth can be like!

My first birth was similiar, but I had asked for the epidural and it took them forever to get in there. I had just my DH there and no support from the nurses or doctors. They came in and put the epidural in and I had to push before I was even laying down. It's really discouraging when you realize that you are fully dilated and the hard part is over! With my second, I was able to have a fully natural birth at the birth center with the only pain relief being a big, warm tub. It was wonderful though and I wouldn't do it any other way again!

"The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth" is a great book with a lot of good information. Also, have you ever seen "The Business of Being Born"?
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February 5th, 2010, 06:57 AM
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Everyone pretty much posted what I thought as well. Another book I loved is "Spiritual Midwifery" by Ina May Gaskin. I have to say Hypnobabies is AWESOME too! They have an at home course you can take that is great. You are listening to CDs everyday that just make you so confident about your birthing experience. If you don't want to take the whole course you can get the Birthing Affirmations CD that's great to listen to everyday while driving, cleaning, etc... YOU CAN DO THIS!!!
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February 5th, 2010, 10:32 AM
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I agree with everyone else. I did have a great NCB in a hospital with Lily, but we're going the homebirth route this time. My hospital is somewhat NCB friendly and they have a lot of CNMs that deliver there. The OBs only come in mainly for the c-sections or other complications. Still, I was the first NCB they had seen in a few weeks.
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February 5th, 2010, 10:48 AM
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I have had 7 pain med free births, all in the hospital. It sure can be done. I wouldn't have your mom with you, just DH. I would give her a call after the baby is born. That way, she can't pressure you and you can have the birth you want.
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February 5th, 2010, 10:53 AM
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Yes. I had a hospital induced labor and I had no pain meds. I agree with everyone who said do not allow anyone in your birthing room who does not support your decision. If needed, have a doula...doulas are great protectors to women in labor. Also have a talk with your husband about being vocal for you while you are in the throes of labor if a nurse tries to talk you into an epi.

you can do it!!
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