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I know this doesn't really have much to do with natural childbirth.. but I'm so frustrated! And I can't think of a better set of women to understand and appreciate what is frustrating me.
My dear friend just gave birth to twins last Tuesday. She fought to give birth vaginally, her doc wanted to just schedule her a c-section, but in the end she had them quite easily on her own. The little girl was 5lbs 3oz and is doing perfectly fine. The little boy however was breathing kind of fast and the nurses went back and forth and finally decided to put him in the nicu. Since then his breathing has slowed and is now perfectly fine.
However, they will not let him leave. He's not really eating well from a bottle. He's nursing like a champ. However the little girl is home, and so my friend can't stay at the hospital to nurse him every time he needs to eat so they have him on a feeding tube and whenever she's not back in time. The little girl is smaller and has to eat every 2 hours, and so she's racing back and forth between her house and the hospital (at least half an hour each way) all day long. They won't let him go home until he can be off the feeding tube fore 48hrs, but they aren't giving him the chance to because its so much easier to just feed him through the tube when she's not there.
I'm sooo frustrated for her. She's so upset that her poor little guy is just sitting in his little plastic bed all day long, no one holding him except for when she can run down. Her husband has hardly seen him at all because they have other children at home that he has to stay with while she goes to feed him. The older children have never seen him, and he's been parted from his twin sisters since the moment they were born.
Makes me want to go down there and swipe the baby. I bet you anything if they'd just let her take him home he'd do so much better. I swear, it seems like sometimes nicu's are holding kids hostage!!
argh. Sigh.. phew. Sorry.. Thanks for letting me vent.
Wow, that is awful. I feel so bad for all of them, I can't imagine how frustrated and helpless they must feel. I don't know if their pedi can do anything but it would be something if he/she at least tried!
I'd terrorize my pedi every hour on the hour until I either got my little boy or a darn good explanation. She can't sign him out "against medical advice"? At least in the hospital my Mom worked at, they couldn't just hold someone hostage.
If he's nursing so well, why aren't they bottle feeding him? My daughter was in the NICU for a few days and they never gave her a feeding tube. She was bottle fed if she wouldn't breastfeed, and I pumped (I know that with the girl eating so frequently this may not be possible) so that she at least was getting breastmilk. They also wouldn't release my DD until she was eating well, but they wouldn't cut down her fluids so she was hungry, and they chose her eating schedule and then would tsk tsk at me when she wouldn't bf. Well, what if she isn't hungry when YOU want her to be? I'm convinced my DD should have come home 2 days sooner, so I understand her frustration!