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February 11th, 2010, 09:45 PM
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I dont have very long left. The truth is, I'm kind of only recently working hard towards my ideal child birth. I dont know if any of you remember my panic stricken post a while back, but with my first I made it 17 and a half hours, then was talked into an epidural by my mother, at which point, 30 minutes later, I delivered my son.

This time, I dont want to give in 30 minutes before delivery. This time, I want to make it. I have had some minor discussions with my mom and she keeps telling me she wont do it again, but I have warned her if I have to limit the people in my room to just myself and my fiance, I will. Because my fiance (of 5 years, who WAS there the first time) is extremely, 100% supportive. He is extremely anti-pitocin/augmentation of labor. I am extremely lucky to have his support.

I am nearly 29 weeks. I was looking into the bradley method today, and theres no way I could pay that much money for a 12 week class when I dont really have 12 weeks left. However, I WAS curious about the book "Husband Coached Childbirth." I was talking to SO about it, and mentioned maybe buying it, reading it, and reading some to him. He seemed... sort of surprisingly (only the letting me read to him part) all for it, seemed excited! Even said, if I had more than 12 weeks left, we'd do the class together.

So thats kind of thrilling. Now I am really considering buying this book. I really like the idea of reading it, highlighting/taking notes and reading stuff to SO. I think it would be great bonding...and I personally, am excited, cause I think he is going to be a great coach, an and I really believe he is going to be the person who helps ensure I get my hospital NCB like I want.

So have any of you had any experience with this book/method? What do you think?

That being said, a lot of ladies are suggesting Ina May's Guide to Childbirth as well, is this another one that would be good to do like I would the other, highlighting/taking notes/reading to my fiance?

C'mon ladies! I ALMOST did this last time, this time will BE NO ALMOST. I WILL have the NCB I want. I WILL!!
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February 12th, 2010, 07:43 AM
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You don't have to take a Bradley specific class for your partner to learn coaching techniques. We took a 6wk class with a non-hospital agency that really just focused on NCB in general. We talked about things partners or doulas could do to help alleviate discomfort, talked about positions to be in to alleviate discomfort and help bring baby down, watched beautiful videos etc. Dh and I ended up being a pretty amazing team (my midwife was really impressed because it was only our first baby!). My advice would be to read Husband Coached Birth (and have your dh read it) and maybe see if there is a shorter, less expensive class in the area that focuses on NCB? I think one really important thing to emphasize with your dh is to not listen to what you say, but read your actions, facial expressions etc. To get in YOUR zone and try to be intuitive...really focused on YOU.

Good luck! Half the battle is your own determination and you sound pretty set on doing NCB this time...I'm sure you'll do great!
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February 12th, 2010, 09:57 AM
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We took and LOVED bradley - we couldn't have done it without it. I highly recommend reading the book. Practice tons of relaxation too - and have him practice massage - you calves, your tailbone, everything. A really good tool we used in class was Sam (My dh/coach) had to hold an ice cube on my temple for 60 seconds and let me tell you that gets uncomfortable! It really helped me train myself to focus on getting through the discomfort with breathing and focusing.

We read the book together too and it's full of great information. Practice positions too - hands and knees, squatting, dancing with your partner, using a birth ball (you can get a yoga ball for like $10.00 at target) - just everything!!

good luck!
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February 12th, 2010, 10:12 AM
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My DH and I did it by reading the book! I had taken the classes with my first DD years prior (DH is her step-dad) but we were broke and couldn't afford the classes when I was preggo with DS. I bought the book and we both read it. It worked for us because my DH is one those people that can learn anything by reading a book on it. Personally I would much rather take a class, but we ended up with a natural birth with DS!

I think the biggest thing is make up your mind and do it! I swear labor is all mind over matter. If having a natural child birth is important to you than have that in your head the whole time. And if you SO is supportive of you then you will do great!
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February 13th, 2010, 04:38 PM
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I think just the book would be fine. I did the classes and read a few books. Another book to look into is Natural Childbirth: The Bradley Way.
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February 13th, 2010, 08:20 PM
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Please read Ina May's Guide too - it is such an awesome 'you can do it' book.
Just a question for those of you who have done Bradley stuff - how far does the 'coach' analogy go? My DH is like mr anti sport kinda guy. and really not bossy 'coach' sort of person. I heard a podcast on it and thought it would really annoy my DH but what can you tell me?
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February 13th, 2010, 09:05 PM
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the husband's roll is simply to guide you - remind you to relax (your face, your hands, everything), do what you need (massage, ice, water, food, etc), and encourage you to try new positions when you're not doing what you need to do. like my husband had to tell me several times to relax my face during contrax, and he had to tell me to get on my hands and knees because i had a very stubbron posterior baby
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February 14th, 2010, 02:43 AM
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Monica I love how determined you are!
I finally really started looking into Bradley classes and they are expensive. I think with me being out of work it just won't be possible. So I will probably buy the books, but I don't think I will be able to get DH to read them....
You are so close hun!
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