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Because I was biting it SO hard to keep from saying something I shouldn't!
DH and I went to a Ford dealership the other day, to see about trading our Ford Explorer, for soothing that would get better gas mileage (we've been spending an arm and a leg on fuel lately, just for DH to commute back and forth to work! So we decided it was time to do something!)
Anyway, we found something we liked, so started the whole paper-work ordeal. So we walked into the finance guys office, and he sees BE, and says- "Oh, my wife and I are expecting our second here in a few days. Next Wednesday at 7:15 in the morning to be exact! It's a planned c-section! Pretty cool that they can do these things, you know! The only thing is, we have to be there at 4am! 3 hours early, for a 20 min procedure, go figure!"...I stood there just looking at him, wanting to say SOOO much, and knowing I shouldn't! There was just one question that I reeeaaaly wanted to ask him though..."Is there a medical reason/need?" but (from the way he was talking), I figured I already knew the answer! Plus, I knew that would start us down a road that I wouldn't be able to resist. and DH would have killed me for getting into something like that right then and there!
It just made me so mad! He was looking at this *MAJOR* abdominal surgery, as a simple, "20 min procedure"!!...As if it were some out patient surgery...at the very worse, like have a tooth pulled! I have to wonder to myself if his poor wife will get the emotional/physical attention/support she deserves during her 6-8 week + recovery time!
No wonder our c-section rates are as high as they are! The lies these poor people were being fed to agree to something like this!! It just makes me mad...and sad!
When we walked out, I said to DH- "are you proud of me?". He asked why, and I said- "for keeping my mouth shut!". He laughed, and said he knew what I was thinking the whole time we were in there, and was just hoping I wouldn't start something!
"Pretty cool they can do these things"- Really? I mean I understand that waiting for labor can be inconvenient, but that's how it's been done for thousands of years. Why mess with that unless it's absolutely necessary? DH jokes with me that my due date could totally screw up the things he's got scheduled at work, but all of his clients are aware (and totally okay) with the fact that he may need to reschedule at the last minute. DH would never suggest I get either an induction or c-section to fit in better with his work appointments.
Most guys whine about getting a vasectomy or a tooth pulled, but it's "cool" they can cut his wife open? Glad he's looking out for her welfare. If it's needed to save her life or the baby's, yes it's very cool. Doesn't sound like that is the case here. I would have waited until the paperwork was signed so he couldn't change the price, then unloaded on him.
Most guys whine about getting a vasectomy or a tooth pulled, but it's "cool" they can cut his wife open? Glad he's looking out for her welfare. If it's needed to save her life or the baby's, yes it's very cool. Doesn't sound like that is the case here. I would have waited until the paperwork was signed so he couldn't change the price, then unloaded on him.
DH jokes with me that my due date could totally screw up the things he's got scheduled at work, but all of his clients are aware (and totally okay) with the fact that he may need to reschedule at the last minute. DH would never suggest I get either an induction or c-section to fit in better with his work appointments.
I couldn't help but wonder if that played into it, because I know for a fact that he works from 1pm-9pm, so it wouldn't even mess with his work schedule! (I don't know if he would go into work that day or not...but it's an interesting coincidence!)
Sadly some women feel like this too. DH and I have a mutual "friend" that we used to work with. She was due a month before me. After she gave birth she told my DH that he should make sure I knew that if I "bothered the nurses enough" that they would give me an epidural at 2cm... After she failed to progress after she had her epi then she got a C/S. Which she also recommended I just ask my doctor for up front because that was just soooo much easier.
The thing is, with people like that and especially with the c-section coming up within the next week, you're not going to change any minds so I usually figure it's not worth the argument because it would only make me more annoyed.
Wow! Crazy stuff! Today I casually mentioned that my baby boy was measuring big and a coworker said "oh, C-section then?". WHAT? Yeah, just go ahead and sign me up because a tech told me the kid looked big on 1 ultrasound! Ridiculous!
__________________ Liz, Mom to Emmett and Ewan Missing 2 little beans (Aug 07, Oct 08) Blog (Running with Emmett)
The thing is, with people like that and especially with the c-section coming up within the next week, you're not going to change any minds so I usually figure it's not worth the argument because it would only make me more annoyed.
Exactly!
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Originally Posted by mgm78
Good for you, I would have had a hard time.
Having personally experienced a c-section, you would have had every right to say something! But I didn't feel I had that liberty.
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Originally Posted by TheOtherMichelle
I've recently realized that most people seem to think c/s are easier than dental work!
Crazy isn't it? I think they watch too much of "A Baby Story" or something!
Wow! Crazy stuff! Today I casually mentioned that my baby boy was measuring big and a coworker said "oh, C-section then?". WHAT? Yeah, just go ahead and sign me up because a tech told me the kid looked big on 1 ultrasound! Ridiculous!
Don't people realize that there are many things that play into that?? (Like fluid levels, etc...) I just wish people would educate themselves better!
I think that's the part that puzzles me the most.... that a lot of *women* are so excited at being able to schedule their c-section and be done with it and skip the "pain" of labor. It perplexes me considerably. I've only had a laparoscopy, and that was plenty enough.... I rather LIKE using my abdominal muscles without severe pain. Not to mention the whole "childbirth is SO HORRIBLY PAINFUL" spiel I am getting constantly. Aggghhhhh.
I would not of been able to help myself. I would of said something! My sister and I actually got in a little tiff cuz she told me that c-sections were the easy way out... And she delivered both her kids vaginally and one naturally! I was like umm wow, yea you don't have to push the baby out but that is major surgery and a lot of complications can arise. So if you really sit there and think about it, its really not the easy way out. Although a lot of people think it is.
She just smiled, because she purposely tries to get a rise out of me and lately that is how to do it.
Ever since I was little she has this thing "Who wants to see me make Amee cry in under 30 seconds?" It is so funny and my family loves it, and being pregnant it usually takes about 5 seconds...
My sister is very proud she delivered her youngest naturally, but she says she will never do it ever again!
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Amelia: Wife to Ryan, Mama to Harleigh, with a boy on the way
...I stood there just looking at him, wanting to say SOOO much, and knowing I shouldn't! There was just one question that I reeeaaaly wanted to ask him though..."Is there a medical reason/need?" but (from the way he was talking), I figured I already knew the answer! Plus, I knew that would start us down a road that I wouldn't be able to resist. and DH would have killed me for getting into something like that right then and there!
I have to wonder to myself if his poor wife will get the emotional/physical attention/support she deserves during her 6-8 week + recovery time!
(I don't know if he would go into work that day or not...but it's an interesting coincidence!)
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