[lunarmagic]

My husband is not the earthy-crunchy type at all. He's very pro-hospital, very fond of medication, etc. When I decided to do a natural birth he thought I was a little crazy, but he supported my decision because it's what I wanted. So I've spent a lot of time reading books, reading him statistics, reading him stories, explaining rationale behind a NCB, etc. It's not stuff he would actively read himself, but he listens to me rant.

So he cracked me up the other day when someone is telling us about their c-section birth, how the baby was too big (at 8lbs something) to fit, etc etc. I was holding my tongue and just trying to be a good listener (what's done is done).

After we walked away my hubby says, "AGH I couldn't listen any longer! I've learned too much from you! I was just standing there getting irritated, thinking about how 8lbs being too big is bull and that doctor just wanted to do a section and go home and..."

I just cracked up laughing. My DH is now all irritated that he's never going to be able to just listen blissfully naive while people talk about inductions and sections, he can hear my voice in his head with all those pesky facts!

[NutMeg76]

My husband is the same way. Although, after 5 hospital births, the last being with midwives, he is totally onboard with home birth. He saw how wonderful the midwife was with Colm's birth and knows that in AK we can't have a birth like that in the hospital, he even recommended going unassisted if we needed to!!!!

He was upset when my co-worker got induced because she was 5 days 'over due'/

[moon~maiden]

that's cool! My husband was the same way, he has a medical degree and suggested c-section to me when we got pregnant with Cadie. He is totally into the home birth thing now. His two best friends' wives both had c-sections twice, but I don't think the guys really discuss the details much.

[navywifey2003]

A few weeks ago my husband was the same way. And then we met someone who had c/s and he had to bite his tongue a bit as well. Its awesome. He wrote in my mother's day card that even though the things I do are a little crazy he is beginning to really understand them.

Thats great news for you as well! I am so happy he has gotten to that point.

[sara~b]

Wow! That's awesome! Can your DH call my DH and have a chat with him!

[Husher]

That's great! I've had similar experiences with my own DH. He now tells me that he can't believe so many people will choose a medicated birth after hearing the facts. He would have never said that before Bryson was born. I think his birth ignited something in him.

[lunarmagic]

Originally Posted by Husher

That's great! I've had similar experiences with my own DH. He now tells me that he can't believe so many people will choose a medicated birth after hearing the facts. He would have never said that before Bryson was born. I think his birth ignited something in him.

Yes, that's very true. I think he was being supportive and trying to be understanding throughout my first pregnancy, but after SEEING me go through it with Devin, give birth the way I did... he totally had a different perspective. So when I tell him I want the same thing again, he's totally on board. It did scare him a little, watching me go through transition unmedicated, but this time he's more prepared for it.

[QueenCrafty]

That's cool that he's so supportive. My DH would just roll his eyes whenever I started spouting facts about interventions. I have no idea how he feels now that I've had an unmedicated birth

[Isaeph]

That's awesome! My husband was game for whatever I wanted with the first birth (medicated, induced, awful hospital birth...but I wanted natural)...but we were both just so uneducated on the whole thing and were no match for the hospital staff. He totally supported me afterward though and the years that I grieved ds1's and my experience. He was the only person that validated me, and that was awesome. When it came time for dd to come, I'd been talking about ncb for so long, and we'd been planning on going to a bc, but I just was NOT clicking with the mw's...he surprised me when I came to him saying I wanted to UC and said that he trusted me completely. It was a no brainer the second time. Same way this time. He's got a co-worker whose wife just had a c-section because labor never progressed (I think she was induced and the baby was 8lb and change) and she gave up bf after a week and he was saying how it's "so much easier" now. Whatever...it drives dh

I remember the first time something like that happened. When ds1 was about 2yo dh was in school. One of his schoolmates has a 1yo and he was saying how his wife was working the night shift and he had to get up with the LO during the night and how he had to walk down the hall to the kid's bedroom. Dh had to think for a second and remembered that not everyone co-sleeps. He was just kind of dumbfounded.

[Sk8ermaiden]

My husband is the same - doesn't read, but obligingly listens to me when I talk. He was telling me that he was talking to a coworker the other day whose wife had an emergency cesarean after she was put on pit and he started telling him what pit is and how it works and that the distress thing happens to a lot of babies and it's all just because doctors want to hurry up and get home. And I was all because my husband is uber professional and barely mentions his personal life, much less provides a commentary on such a touchy subject!