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  #1  
August 28th, 2010, 08:32 AM
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Hi Ladies!
So........I've been really enthusiastic and ready for a NCB since I conceived, pretty much, and even more so after our Bradley Class, but as I approach my EDD I'm finding I'm having one little concern that I know you all can help me with....

The women in my family tend to "go early" with their babies (my mom delivered me and my brother NCB at 37 and 36 weeks, my grandma had her kids NCB at 37 and 36 weeks) so all along through my pregnancy I kinda just assumed I'd be going early, and with that, I kinda assumed baby would be on the smallish side. (DH and I are BIG folks, he's 6' 4" and I'm 5' 10") Baby has always measured a little bigger according to our 12 and 20 week u/s but my fundal measurements have been spot on the whole time.

So, as I approach my EDD (I'm a week away today), I am really getting used to the thought of going long. I told my prenatal chiropractor yesterday that I'm thinking now I'm going more like 41 1/2 and she agreed with me. I know she's no authority, any more than anyone else, it's all just a guessing game right now (I haven't had any internal exams and don't expect to, unless I hit my EDD and then some, I suppose.)

And I really actually don't have an issue with going long, I'm loving the nesting urges (house is spotless AND organized for once in my life!) and still very much enjoying being pregnant. My fear is around this baby being HUGE and not being able to have a NCB because of a big baby. (This is my first.) Like I said, I'm big, DH is big, and my bone structure is not tiny either - a midwife told me to judge my "shoe size plus one" and that is the equivalent of pounds I can easily deliver - well, I wear a 10 so I could easily deliver an 11 pounder by her rule; but I'm still finding myself thinking and being a little TOO concerned about "big baby." I should also say that I've gained 50+ pounds in pregnancy. (Which doesn't concern my mw either, she reminds me I was thin to begin with and I've got a large frame for all the weight to spread out on...)

Anyway, sorry to ramble, but I'm hoping some of you can encourage me that I really *can* do this, that there's no knowing if I have a huge baby or a little one, and even still, to trust my body and the birth process. Right? Right. I've just seen too many "Baby Stories" where they "HAD" to do a c-section because baby was measuring 10 pounds. And then of course baby was actually 8 pounds once delivered. Sheesh.

Thanks, ladies. You're the best.
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August 28th, 2010, 09:15 AM
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Chances are you will have a big baby, if not in pounds in length, just based on your height and DH's height but thats totally normal! As far as the shoe size thing I would take that with a grain of salt. I'm 5'2'' and wear 6.5 shoe. I had two 8lb+ babies no prob! Not that 8.5 lbs is huge but it just shoots the shoe theory down.

It is so rare for a women to have a baby that is too big! Generally what is more common and what doctors coin "too big" is a baby in a bad position. But as long as you don't labor on your back you should be fine. And if your baby still decides to come out a little crooked there are things you can do to fix it. Your MW can instruct you on what to do!

You will do great! Don't buy into the big baby theory!
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August 28th, 2010, 09:49 AM
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fat squishes and so do baby heads. Stay away from those birth shows for the rest of your pregnancy, please!!!

Here is a link for you- Big Baby info ("Big Baby")
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August 28th, 2010, 09:49 AM
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your body won't make a baby that your body can't birth. you can do it!!!
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August 28th, 2010, 10:19 AM
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you can do this! big baby or not, you won't make a baby you can't birth!
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August 28th, 2010, 10:32 AM
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Thanks so much, I knew you all would know all the right things to say....
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August 28th, 2010, 11:25 AM
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August 29th, 2010, 10:10 AM
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It's very possible to have big babies naturally. All three of mine were over 9.5lbs at birth (NCB) and my mother had 11 pounders up to a 13lb baby naturally. Both of us are about your height maybe shorter. So don't worry. You CAN do it. And you have plenty of Support here as well.
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August 29th, 2010, 06:08 PM
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You can do it!
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August 30th, 2010, 08:22 AM
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I was always told that absent a medical condition like GD, your body will not make a baby you cannot handel. Also I know people get very concerned about size/weight, but if you have a long lean baby even if they have a higher birthweight that will be easier to deliever than one with a large head (aka: the weight does not mean a whole lot).
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August 30th, 2010, 08:57 AM
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It is rare for a woman to make a baby that is too big for her to birth vaginally. The head is collapsable for a reason, to fit.

I have a family member (married into the family) that is huge height wise, and so are all the men in his family. The wives in the family have not had any babies under 10 lbs, and some of those women are short and petite. Most have been vaginally with the exception of a few c-section for multiples, who were also 10 lbs, and she went to 40 weeks I believe.
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August 30th, 2010, 10:21 AM
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Both of my babies were bigger than average (9.13 & 9.15, both 21" long & 14.75" heads). I had both of them vaginally & I'm a pretty average sized person. I'm 5' 7" & was a size 8 pre-pregnancy. My daughter (9.15) was my NCB & was actually a much, much easier labor & delivery than my son. I pushed for 2+ hours with him and only 25 mins with her. I think it was much easier & more efficient to push without the epi.
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August 30th, 2010, 09:36 PM
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My mom is 5 foot tall and she has a small bone structure. She had my sister at home and she weight 9 lbs 10 ounces. Granted it was her 6th baby, but if she can do it, you can do it. All her other babies were in the 6 lb range, but she had gestational diabetes with my sister and also went 2 weeks over her due date.
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August 30th, 2010, 10:06 PM
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OK, these stories are definitely helping!

Thank you thank you thank you!!!!
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