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Hi ladies! I'm pretty sure I introduced myself already, but I can't remember, so if not, I'm a first-time mommy, 22 weeks pregnant with a baby boy. I am really wanting a natural childbirth. My husband supports me 100% on this, and I'm starting to wonder what questions I should be asking my OB, and when I need to ask them.
So far, I really like my OB. I've noted a few things about his office, and from what I gather about the few things, I do like. On a sheet I was given at my first appointment, of baby's development week by week, they went up to 42 weeks. I take that as a sign that they aren't induction happy. I was put down for breastfeeding and a vaginal birth, without really being asked. Which is fine with me. I want to exclusively breast feed. I've turned down a test at their office, and they've been completely fine with it. Yet, I don't want an episiotomy unless absolutely necessary. I don't want pitocin, I want to push in whatever position is comfortable (most likely squatting), etc. When do I start asking the doctor about these things? What questions should I be asking my OB?
The other issue, is because I'm due in the middle of January, it's considered "holiday season" still, I could get 1 of 4 different OBs. Two are in the same office, and two are in different offices. My OB and one of the OB's in a different office, are considered the best in the city. The other OB in my office is also really good, the fourth one... is known to not listen to anyone. I left his office, prior to going to my current OB's office, because I didn't like the lack of communication. If I have a birth plan set up with my OB, how can I be sure it'll be followed by either of the other 3 doctors? I guess I could make sure I got my OB by being induced when he is on schedule, but I really don't want to do that.
Any advice/thoughts/ideas are greatly appreciated.
I think the best time to ask questions is NOW! As far as what questions to ask... it's all about what is important to you. I found that sitting down and making a detailed birth plan really helped me know what I needed to ask. This website helped me... Planning for Birth. And I realized that I needed to ask not only my OB, but the hospital too... as sometimes there are conflicting policies. It helps me to make a list of questions, and write down the answers as they're given... but I'm forgetful. I did the same thing at the hospital tour... and was the only dorky one there with a notebook, but I didn't care... I came for ANSWERS... not to see what color curtains were on the windows.
As far as the possibility of a different OB delivering you... I'm worried about this as well... There are 7 OB's in my practice... I've had to see all of them once, and I'm hoping my doctor is on call when it's time. I would not choose an induction strictly for the fact to have your OB deliver you... not worth it. But I suppose if a doctor was being a butthead and refusing me something my doctor promised... I guess I'd pitch a fit... lol IDK what else there is to do...
Bri, wife to Kirk, & mother of Aidan Troy , Callen Rhys, and introducingJulia Pearl
I have no idea how to even ask the hospital!! Do I just call the L&D floor and ask?? From what I've seen about the hospital on the site, it seems kind of open... Babies are able to room in with mom... they have childbirth classes... but... they discuss
Late pregnancy discomforts
Breathing & relaxation
What to do and who to call when labor starts
Information about epidurals and medications used for childbirth
How to soothe a fussy baby (Dr. Harvey Karp's Happiest Baby on the Block)
The email to the lady who is the RNC/MSN Manager is on the hospital website. I wonder if I should email her and ask her about hospital policies? Should I wait until my appointment (October 1st) and ask my OB about emailing her?
I hear you about the doctor thing...I was in a practice with 4 docs, 1 great, 2 fine and one I called "Dr. God". I so hoped I wouldn't get him when the time came, but I did! I nearly up and walked out of the hospital when I saw him walk into the room. He told the nurse (cause he wouldn't even speak directly to me) that he could do maybe 10% of what was on my birth plan. I ended up having to argue and fight while in labor. Not fun.
I suggest getting a doula, cause then if you end up in a less than desirable position during labor, she can do that fighting for you, and you and DH can concentrate on doing what you need to do...
As for your questions, I think you could wait and ask your OB who you need to talk to at the hospital. That's also a great way to start a dialogue with him about your preferences....