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having failed at it twice, i can give some advice on what not to do , do not go in thinking you will try your best, that wont work for most of us. I am attempting my third epi-free delivery, and i think the best thing you can do is prepare prepare prepare! My last two attempts were very weak now that i look back, i didnt really do anything besides try to endure the pain at the time and i ended up with the epi twice. But now i really know the importance of having support during labor and choosing your birth place wisely. For me the hospital and its routines/staff hindered me a lot, being at a birth center with no option of the epi and the freedom to be up and about is bound to give me a much better chance. Besides that I didnt read enough, and i wasnt prepared to demand what i needed at the time. Gather as much information as possible! Read as many books and birth stories as possible to give you some ideas of what to expect and try to set up your birth conditions so that they give you the best shot possible, because in labor you need everything working on your side.
The power and intensity of your contractions cannot be stronger than you, because it is you~ Unknown ~
I would recomend if it is available to you to take a natural child birthing class. We took Bradley classes for out first and it was so informative about the whole pregnancy-post partum process (as well as pain management techniques) I definately went into labor feeling very informed and prepared.
Hi there! My name is Bethany and I'm one of the co-hosts here. I'm glad to see you join us!
I think the best thing you can do is research your options so you get know and understand what you are comfortable with and what you are not. I just finished reading a great book "Pregnancy, Childbirth, and the Newborn" by Penny Simkin and Ann Keppler (there is a 3rd woman but I'm blanking on her name). It goes over all the procedures/situations and the pros and cons of both, not just in labor but pregnancy as well.
I would also recommend a natural child birth class. It offers you great info and support for your pregnancy and labor.
Looking forward to seeing you the rest of your pregnancy!
Definitely prepare yourself by reading and a natural childbirth class (Hypnobabies or Bradley method) if you can. Keep telling yourself that you can do it instead of saying you'll just try going natural. You'd be surprised how that mentality can really affect you. Good luck!!
Oh Amanda you didn't fail! I also tried (really hard) for a natural birth and think I could have done it,I didn't end up needing a c-section.
My advice is similar to the other mamas here,read as much you can about natural childbirth and take a good class. Also try and find a doctor and a hospital that are NCB friendly. Go in with a great birth plan as well,something short and simple and ask the nurses to read it. I found great birth plan samples at
They also have great advice on pain managment etc...
If you can find a doula that would be great! She can help keep you on track and help explain things to you and DH and help you talk to the nurses and doctors as well. She can also educate you about what happens during birth.
For the pain when I was having contractions I used heat from Magic Bag or the bath tub or shower they had at the hospital. I also liked to rock back and forth on the toilette.