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  #1  
October 20th, 2010, 07:59 AM
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Did you read the books AND take the classes? Do you think you could have done it with just doing all the reading? I can't remember if I read it here or somewhere else but someone said after reading all the books they thought the classes were overkill. Your opinion on this?

I want to take the classes but DH works nights and I don't know that he will be able to get off work, plus they are so expensive. They have cut DH's hours at work and we are just scraping by right now.
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October 20th, 2010, 08:06 AM
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I personally think the classes are important. Some of the curriculum is overkill but it doesn't negate the usefulness of the classes. If you truly want to have a NCB its a crucial piece of the puzzle. If you take the classes this time then you wouldn't need to take them again for subsequent pregnancies, unless you felt the need, but I just refreshed myself with the books.
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October 20th, 2010, 08:27 AM
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I agree that it wouldn't have been the same just reading the books. The classes really empowered my husband, too. I read the books along with the class.... I could see if you read them before how it would seem like overkill.
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October 20th, 2010, 08:33 AM
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You might consider having someone else going to the classes with you. It would be ideal if your husband could go (and still should if only for a few of the classes) but I would still try to take the classes. They make a world of difference,
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October 20th, 2010, 10:32 AM
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I spoke with my doula about this, because the classes just aren't feasible for us either. There's no way with DH's schedule that we could do it. She felt that we could get enough information from the books. The classes are helpful, but if you can't do it, you shouldn't lose hope on it.
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October 20th, 2010, 11:06 AM
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The classes are very, very different from the books. I think the classes are MUCH better prep, but I am sure you could get by with the books if you were diligent about practicing.
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October 20th, 2010, 12:14 PM
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I would definitely recommend the class. DH and I read the books, but the class offered so much more.
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October 20th, 2010, 01:28 PM
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I'm not a Bradley Mom, but my cousin read all the books and didn't take the class. She was successful at a NCB, however, she had a home birth and she said that if she had went to the hospital and had that option for medication she probably would have taken it. She didn't feel prepared enough and said that if she has another one, she will definitely find a way to take a class.
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October 20th, 2010, 06:20 PM
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Honestly, I think the books suck. And I'm a Bradley Instructor. I could not have done it without the class, and my instructor actually teaching my husband what he needed to do - and the videos were great (we didn't watch many bradley movies, mostly births my instructor had attended)...I had to force myself to read the books for my bradley training, but I hated them...and LOVED the class. They are expensive, but it costs a LOT of money for the instructor to have the class (around $50.00 or so a person, give or take depending on what materials you use) and a lot of time preparing the lessons, etc.

Also, the classes are much cheaper than paying for an unnecessary c-section

two girls in my class never came with their husbands - they found doulas who were in training and attended their birth for $50.00 and the doulas came to classes.

anyway, i think the classes trump the book by a long shot. If you talk to an instructor, they may open a sunday class or something for you since sundays work for almost everyone. Ours was tuesday night, but our instructor also taught a Sunday 2PM class and a Saturday 10AM class
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October 20th, 2010, 07:28 PM
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I am glad someone else said it. In particular, "Husband Coached Childbirth" is just AWFUL. The man was such a chauvinist! OMG! Several times I wanted to hurl it across the room.
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October 21st, 2010, 09:35 AM
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I am glad someone else said it. In particular, "Husband Coached Childbirth" is just AWFUL. The man was such a chauvinist! OMG! Several times I wanted to hurl it across the room.
Yeah... you kind of have to tune him out and really hunt down the real info he is trying to give.
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October 21st, 2010, 06:43 PM
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Yup. I agree with the comments about "Husband Coached Childbirth." The information is good, but MAN! It can be hard to keep reading sometimes.

I LOVED our classes. I wouldn't have been as prepared without them. You can definitely still have a successful NCB without them, but for me personally, they were worth every penny.

How much do the instructors in your area charge? Our instructor charged $300.00 for the 12 class course ($250.00 if you paid before class seven). For 12 2-3 hour classes, I really felt like it was money very well spent. She also did payment arrangments and made scheduling arangments depending on what worked for everyone in the group.

If you can, I would say take them, but don't despair if it doesn't pan out. HTH!
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October 21st, 2010, 08:41 PM
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I think we paid $350. We lucked out and just had the best teacher ever. She is a good friend now, and I babysit her kids when she goes doula-ing. Two sets of friends have taken the class now, and the husbands just rave about them and recommend them to their daddy-to-be friends. We three wives so far have just been over the moon about the support we got from our DHs.
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October 21st, 2010, 09:07 PM
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We paid $250.00 for our class
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October 21st, 2010, 09:11 PM
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I think for you, you could "get by" on the books, but for DH the class is a must!! They learn SO MUCH! He would never have "gotten" NCB w/o the classes. It really gave DH so much confidence. We had an instructor that did it in half the sessions for us. She did it Sat mornings for a longer period of time so that was REALLY helpful!
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October 22nd, 2010, 04:47 AM
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I found 2 different instructors in my area and they both charge $300. I will look to see if there is a Saturday class and payment arrangements. Like a PP said I think I could get by but I know I am going to need DHs support and I do want to take the class.

I am curious what about husband coached childbirth you didn't like? I am about 1/2 way thru and while you can tell most of it was written 40 years ago and parts of it updated I haven't found anything offending yet.
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October 22nd, 2010, 08:11 AM
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^^ IMO, I think what you said about it getting written 40 years ago plays a huge part. If you took it out of context somethings could be rude. I don't like that he makes grandiose (sp?) statements. He takes a small conjecture and applies that to a larger scope. It's just not a good way to argue.
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October 22nd, 2010, 08:13 AM
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I think the books are just stupid and the people who revise them (Marjie and Jay Hathaway) are very old fashioned in their beliefs. (Speaking from experience, I sat in class with them for 4 days straight from 8am-1030pm) I just found the views, information, movies, articles, etc. from my class to be a bazillion more times helpful than anything I could've tried to get from the book. Also, having someone show me how to relax, showing sam what to do, showing us where the good pressure points on the bod are, etc...was sooooo helpful. you just don't gain that from the book. theres also the accountability factor with classes - your teacher will most likely have little quizzes for the husbands, games that the husbands play (against the moms) putting the stages of labor in order, the emotional sign posts, etc. etc ... its the little things that make the world of difference. Not to mention it's great have built that rapport with your teacher - because most times they will come to your birth if you need someone, you can call them with any questions. we called our instructor 3x when i was in labor..and she was on her way to the hospital when i started pushing, but got there after Bry was born
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October 22nd, 2010, 09:57 AM
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I thought the classes were much more useful and infomative than the books. I also think there is a value to being around other like minded pregnant people.
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October 28th, 2010, 09:24 AM
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I agree with what a previous poster said: the class was a great way to get DH on board with the whole NCB thing. He didn't really understand before, but after the class he was excited, informed and ready to be my advocate.
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