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So - I don't think even DH knows this BUT - I told myself that if I go to the point in labour where I HAD to get pain relief drugs - I'd tell myself I could have these stupidly expensive shoes I've wanted for like YEARS. It was a good ace to have in the hole - but I didn't need it. The only time I thought about the hospital was when I wanted a catheter - but my midwives had one (man it sucks to not be able to pee!)
So still - no fancy shoes but I'm telling you it would have worked. I love shoes!
Do you have any silly tricks?
Thank you Kiliki for my first beautiful Siggie!
mom of 2 angels and an earth baby
If I go without medication, not only will I be able to rub it in the faces of the haters, but I'll give myself permission to leave Sephie with the CDC for a few hours and go get an expensive cut/style, wax, and all other manner of girlie things I've never done. And I'll do it right before DH gets back from deployment, so I'll look like a movie star for him.
No, I just didn't allow myself the opportunity to change my mind. Knowing how much I wanted to have a natural birth and knowing that I absolutely am tough enough and absolutely could and can, I don't know that I really doubted myself in labor other than when my husband's worries and nagging got to me (I went forty-two weeks and three days and had several days of prodromal labor, so Daddy had some severe worries and first-time-Daddy syndrome.). This time, I will also have no alternative to my chosen birth plan other than many things that I DON'T want, so I know that I will make it through again (barring any unforeseen problems or circumstances, of course).
Of course, I do get to eat all the stuff I can't eat during pregnancy after the baby is born. When Lucius was born, my husband made me a dinner of a filet cut steak (medium rare), lobster tail (I think I COULD eat this if I wanted to while pregnant.), Doritos, Utz cheese balls (I discovered that I don't like them anymore then, though. ), Swedish Fish, Starburst and a Code Red Mountain Dew. The colored candies are still an incentive.
Mmm... I don't think I'm bribing myself, no. I'm just not giving myself another option. I'll think about the epidural needle/procedure, or the catheter they like to do with the epidural, and how I may not be able to push on all fours, or in a squatting position, with an epidural... that should work.
I'm having to rely on myself, too. My husband's already said, that if I hit transition and start begging for medicine, he won't tell me no. The jerk.
I didn't think about anything like that in advance. My doula told me to think about a code word, which if I said it meant I really wanted the drugs. I wouldn't do that because I didn't want to consider that I would ever get the drugs. I never pictured myself wanting to cave, only been brave like a warrior woman.
I never considered bribing myself last time around, but when it came right down to it, even though my labor was really painful, getting the epi (or anything else) never even entered my mind. I think that since I had spent so much time planning and preparing for a natural birth, it just didn't even occur to me as an option.
Since we are planning to have this kiddo at home, it's not really an option. I kind of wish thought of this last time so I would've had an exucse to get myself something spiffy after seeing my natural birth through to the end.