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November 30th, 2010, 12:55 PM
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Did you do it? If so, did you still tear? This came up in my birth class, and they suggested that DH do it starting at 36 weeks. Of course he's completely freaked out by the idea, and I'm not entirely sure I want him to!
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November 30th, 2010, 02:18 PM
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I didn't do it, and I didn't tear along my perineum. my tear was along my labia. (Small, one stitch that was questionably necessary) but I might do it this time - to myself, I wouldn't want Sam rubbing that....idk, just not my cup of tea!
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November 30th, 2010, 02:25 PM
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i also gave birth on my back, but I *think* my CNM did perineal support - and she guided me really well.
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November 30th, 2010, 02:30 PM
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We did, and like ChicaChels I didn't had tears, but not on my perineum.

I don't know that it actually helped, I think the counter-pressure is probably more responsible.
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November 30th, 2010, 02:46 PM
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I'm doing it now. I'm 33 weeks. I make my husband do it 3 - 4 times each week... he's such a jerk. "Well, you don't really need it..." and I'm like "What!!? That isn't nice!" and he's like "Well, I think you don't, the muscle is pretty stretchy..." and I'm all "How about you just shut up, and rub?"

That said, it burns, and stings when he does it. So, I guess hopefully it's working. Maybe I'll get used to the burning and stinging, so it won't bother me when baby is on his way out.
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November 30th, 2010, 03:15 PM
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We didn't do it and I probably wouldn't. I thought I heard somewhere that it might cause tearing where you don't do it.

I only tore a tiny bit at the very end. It healed up pretty fast and was never uncomfortable.
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November 30th, 2010, 04:15 PM
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I had a 2nd degree tear with my first, no perineal support. So I had DH do it with my second and no tears. Studies have shown that it has an effect on a small number of women, and won't do much for the majority. But I still did it anyways. I gave birth standing and DH did perineal support during that too.
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November 30th, 2010, 05:57 PM
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I had a 2nd degree tear with my first, no perineal support. So I had DH do it with my second and no tears. Studies have shown that it has an effect on a small number of women, and won't do much for the majority. But I still did it anyways. I gave birth standing and DH did perineal support during that too.
That's interesting. Thanks!
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we didn't do it. The only tear I had was with my second birth and it was tiny enough that I didn't need any stitches

I think laboring/birthing in the water helped a LOT with that though.
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With DS I had an episiotomy. It was back when they were more of a norm. The nurse in the delivery room stretched me out with DD and I didn't tear at all. With my surrobaby my contractions stopped while he was crowning so his head slowly stretched me out and I had no tearing. This time I plan on doing the perineum massages and hopefully I wont tear again.
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I think laboring/birthing in the water helped a LOT with that though.
That's my plan, and I know the midwife does support the perineum as well. I guess I was more worried about what happens if I don't end up with a water birth. I just don't know that DH can handle it, and if he can do it, he'd probably end up making smart comments and piss me off!
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November 30th, 2010, 08:10 PM
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I didn't do massage prior to birth.. but a nurse did perineal massage and support during the delivery. I delivered on my back and did not have any perineal tears, but did tear along the labia. I tore in 3 places actually, one on each side, one at the top. They were pretty minor though and healed fast.
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November 30th, 2010, 08:58 PM
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we did it once and I found it really uncomfortable and dh didn't like doing it as he felt he was hurting me. We looked into a few contraptions that do the stretching for you and we asked a few midwives and our OB. Some say it's a good thing to do but our OB said that if you are going to tear than you will, he said it's the same as some woman are prone to stretch marks and others aren't. We also researched it heaps on Dr. Google and found that there is no real evidence to support doing it. In the end we chose not to do it and I didn't have any stitches and I healed quickly. I had a water birth so apparently that reduced the severity of any tears anyway.
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November 30th, 2010, 11:43 PM
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I didn't do it. I tore a little - but I didn't get any stitches. It wasn't bad. I delivered on my side/back, and I pushed her out fast (13 min) and she came out all at once! (and I was trying to go slow. I think being able to feel what you are doing makes a big difference.
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December 1st, 2010, 05:23 AM
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I didn't do it. That said, I did tear with each birth but I don't think it was the lack of massage, lol

Cassidy was posterior (face up) and it took me 3 hours to push her out, and despite the midwife's perineal support and massage with warm olive oil, I tore.

Joel Peter was a very easy delivery and I was in the tub for a couple of hours before his birth, but he was almost 10 pounds and I tore just a tiny bit. I don't think she even stitched me.

I think proper support during delivery and the warm oil is the best, even better than prior massage can be. We are not allowed to deliver in the water here, but I stayed in the tub until just before delivery, so my skin was all warm and stretchy, and that undoubtedly helped.
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