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February 27th, 2012, 09:27 PM
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Second, third, etc natural childbirths compared to your first? I just had my baby a week ago and I'm constantly reflecting on that last 45 minutes of labor before I began pushing. Not being able to push but my body was doing it all on its own is something I'd like to never experience again. My midwife said since he was my first my body just didn't want to dilate as fast as he wanted to come out. I loved my whole labor, except that part, and I was wondering if yalls first labors were worst than the rest of your labors? How did they compare?
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February 28th, 2012, 07:07 AM
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Nathan was my first vaginal birth, and my labor with Adam was only 2 hours so I can't really compare them.

Everything has kind blurred now, but the only time I remember needing push and being told not to was the 40 seconds or so that my mw was trying to get all the stuff ready and get her gown on. I do remember screaming at her to hurry up because I was pushing.

I wonder what will happen this time...
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February 28th, 2012, 10:18 AM
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My labor with Violet (my 2nd) was harder than my first. But she was stuck and really oddly positioned since she twisted during pushing. That was the only thing that was worse - the pushing phase, which lasted for just over 3 hours with Vi compared to like 30 minutes with Lily.
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March 1st, 2012, 09:49 PM
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I'm not sure if I understand what you are saying, was someone telling you not to push?

My last 2 births were natural births and were about the same. My third was a much faster labor than my 2nd, and the pushing phase was very intense with my 2nd, myabe because it was my first time feeling it. With my third labor though, I felt very in control when I was pushing, I just pushed when I felt the urge (or more my body did it for me).
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March 2nd, 2012, 03:22 PM
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My first two were inductions due to pre-e. I had epidurals with both. The epidural was messed up the second time around and a big motivation for me to have my third natural. I pushed three time with my first, "practice pushed" with my second, because the nurse did not believe me when I told her my epidural wasn't working. Baby started crowning, she told me not to push, ran out to get the OB, and my body pushed DS1 out onto the bed, right when the OB walked in. Third was natural, midwife was ready and waiting (I told her when my babies are ready, she better be ready). Thankfully she is amazing and listened, because I only pushed three times again. She actually had to convince me to push, because I went from ho-hum barely there labor, to WHOA NELLY within one contraction (with water breaking), and there was no work-up to "that pushy feeling". My body just went ROAAAAAAAAAAR and got the baby out. Looking forward to seeing how it works out this time!
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March 2nd, 2012, 08:00 PM
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My first was pretty quick, only 6 hours in total. I went from "this is not that bad" to full on "OMG" transition very quickly, and just as quickly my body was pushing and he was out.

My second was longer and more spaced out. Again transition hit me out of nowhere. BUT this time I was still at home so I had to endure a car ride while trying not to push out the baby (sheer force of will, I call it). So I feel you on that!!! Never want to do that again!! When they rushed me into triage and up on the bed I pushed her out in I think 3 pushes. It was such a huge relief to just be able to push properly!

We'll see how #3 goes!
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March 2nd, 2012, 10:50 PM
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I'm not sure if I understand what you are saying, was someone telling you not to push?

My last 2 births were natural births and were about the same. My third was a much faster labor than my 2nd, and the pushing phase was very intense with my 2nd, myabe because it was my first time feeling it. With my third labor though, I felt very in control when I was pushing, I just pushed when I felt the urge (or more my body did it for me).
Yes, my midwife wouldnt let me push. I was only dilated to 8 when I had the urge to push and so I wasn't allowed to push for about 45 minutes. It was horrible but once I was able to he was out in 5 pushes. He was ready for awhile, my body just wasn't there.
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March 3rd, 2012, 07:27 AM
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Here is an interesting article about this. The midwives who I work with the most do not follow the rule of 10. They encourage you to push with your instincts (not too hard) before complete dilation. I've seen that's a good thing.

For some reason, this article was originally posted in Midwiferytoday, but is no longer available to see on that site. But this blog posted it.


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March 3rd, 2012, 09:07 AM
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I've heard of this and was definitely thinking about it at the time. I'm also curious if I actually dilated to ten way before they rechecked me. I was checked in the beginning of transition and was an 8 but she didn't recheck me for another 45 minutes and I was a ten then. I'm thinking I went from 8-10 very quickly and they just didn't know. I've read birth stories where the midwife never checks the woman but just let's her instincts take over. I've also read some where they let the mom start pushing at 9.
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March 3rd, 2012, 09:19 AM
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After reading that I'm so curious of what would have happened had I started pushing?
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March 3rd, 2012, 08:51 PM
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I cannot imagine being told not to push! There was no turning back for me. I was checked when I first got to the birth center and then my midwife just let me do what felt right. I pushed when I felt the urge and no one questioned it. I would bring that up with your provider before your next birth.
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March 4th, 2012, 12:31 PM
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i cant really compare my two births because my first was an induction due to pre-eclampsia with TONS of complications. My 2nd was all natural water birth and was much much better.

As for being told not to push when your body was doing it, im not sure how that is even possible. My body was doing it on its own. They didnt check dilation at all until I was already pushing. They said to just do what my body told me to do and when it was just the beginning part they let me continue and then once it was pushing harder at every contraction they checked to see and i was only at about 9.5cm so they had me change positions to help get that last little .5cm out of the way.

From what Ive read if you start pushing way too early you can cause swelling and make it harder to deliver or you might cause some tearing. But if your body is doing it on its own it usually means that baby is ready and the pressure of pushing will get the last bit of the cervix out of the way pretty fast. I had almost no tearing, just tiny ones.
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March 5th, 2012, 11:18 AM
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I cannot imagine being told not to push! There was no turning back for me. I was checked when I first got to the birth center and then my midwife just let me do what felt right. I pushed when I felt the urge and no one questioned it. I would bring that up with your provider before your next birth.
I'm going to discuss this with my Midwife at my PP visit this Wednesday cause I really think my body was ready at that point. Honestly I could have been dilated to 10 and them have not known cause I guess they were letting me "labor down" for those 45 minutes. Idk, all I know is it was horribly painful. I had to grunt and blow out very quickly to keep my body from pushing and it was still pushing on it's own. There's really only so much I could do at that point to keep my body from pushing. This was the point I ended up pooping myself several times too lol. Apparently everything wanted to come out then =).
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